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Title: I HAVE LOST
Post by: saicharandhool on July 16, 2009, 10:31:27 PM
om sai ram..Baba aaj tere darbaar mein bas itna kehna aaya hoon I have lost..I made many wrong decisions in life but always honest and tried my best to fix things but nothing worked out..You gave me things but you gave it to me so late and in such a way that there were not of the same value..I wanted to see my mom happy but I couldnt marry..My brother is struggling in his career..You passed my loan after 6 months struggle during which I lost my love,spent lot of money and wasted time and finally when I got the loan the amount was not useful enough to take care of my needs so I am still in debt trap and what else that my brother lost his job and now additional burden has fallen on my shoulder and my income again is falling short of my requirements..after 4 years of struggle,devotion I am at same place..everybody who betrayed me,us moved ahead and I dont have complaint about it but whenever I asked anything from you I always got opposite..I thought you had given me my love back but again she talks to me but she is not the same and its more painful..I cant see any ray of hope..I am selfish in a way but then I cant marry someone else and then spoil her life if I am not convinced at heart..You know how much I love my family and for me she is part of my family..Inspite of all my efforts baba I have lost..I may deserve this punishment but now atleast give me strength to face it..I have lost all interest but I will fight till my mom is there and after that I dont see any reason for me in life as I have failed to do anything for my family or humanity..I am just a big failure..All my dreams are biting dust...I am sorry for letting everyone down including you...I am really sorry..I maybe bad but I am still your son..give me strength to get through last few years...God bless all..
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: saicharandhool on July 17, 2009, 02:34:14 AM
Today nobody is listening to me..baba aap sun lo...I am feeling very very tired and lonely
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: saisan on July 17, 2009, 02:42:51 AM
om sai ram
charanji, baba sabhi problem se bade hai,plz don't think that u have lost, think in positive way and baba's answers.
ur lucky that ur able to trace her and talk to her, tell me there are so many people who hav not seen n talked months and years...there are so many whose gal/guy is not ready to talk to her... baba has helped you ...say thanks to him.

regarding ur loan aapko mila tho chahe 6 months ke baad ....again how many are there who don't have job,
regd ur brothers job ..aapko tho hai so u can support him until he gets.... her

ur mom also will be happy soon..as she wants to see u happiliy married not just married as any parent wud want.
she is talking to u slowly she will realize and come back ..baba is going to bring her back ..only when u allow him to do.
i know this uncertainity kills and when things don't happen the way we want we feel frustuated..have patience.
she is not well ....so needs rest ..pray for her well being ... then u can sit and dicuss with her. meanwhile u can show her u have changed and give her confidence that u will keep her happy.

thank baba for everything and keep praying. when ever u feel bad or fristuated just chant his name until u get tired.
when ever u will remember her keep chanting ......sai will give u peace for sure .
Have Shradha and Saburi ... hope baba bless u soon with love,happiness and peace ..om sai ram
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: saicharandhool on July 17, 2009, 02:45:56 AM
Saisanji..Thankyou so much for your words..i needed someone to talk this silence was killing me...OM sai ram..Whatever u said is correct but whenever somebody who was part of you till yesterday now talks to u drawing limits it hurts..I am trying my best to do right things in life.
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: saisan on July 17, 2009, 03:10:57 AM
charanji i can undertsand ,don't bother abt others, ignore them,always keep good freinds with u. don't talk to people who acts that they are friends...people change when ur situation changes.i know.
don't take thier words to heart.... just concentrate on what ur doing ...and when u will succeceed these people only will praise you. just ignore it or u will get hurt.
baba tho hai hi aapke sath..... our karmas are making us face the bad people , bad things in our life ..no other way apart from refugee to baba.
om sai ram
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: saicharandhool on July 17, 2009, 03:12:30 AM
Satya vachan..Howz u r life..I am blessed to have few well wishers in this forum.
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: saisan on July 17, 2009, 03:36:02 AM
ya sometimes we need some one who can listen to us...... baba is the media though
life is good little hectic so don't have time to think abt the problems... just going on as baba has decided for me.
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: saicharandhool on July 17, 2009, 05:24:24 AM
I SPOKE TO HER AT LENGTH AND SHE HAS JUST SAID SHE WONT EVER CHANGE HER DECISION BECAUSE OF PAST THINGS AND WHAT SHE SAID TO HER PARENTS..I AM BROKEN RIGHT NOW BUT SHE WAS EXTERMELY FIRM ON HER DECISION AND FOR HER LOVE IS SECONDARY NOW EVEN THOUGH SHE LOVES ME SHE DOESNT WANT TO GET INTO COMMITMENT..I WILL NEVER ASK FROM BABA FOR MY LOVE I GAVE UP
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: saisan on July 17, 2009, 05:32:11 AM
give her some time she will change charan ji
now its the time to ask for more to baba .....don't leave his feet ..he will bless u
don't force her now, let her get well then u argue with her ..show that u love her and past will not repeat for sure
give her promise... baba bless you .be strong now .. om sai ram
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: saicharandhool on July 17, 2009, 05:35:37 AM
I will never leave baba's feet ever but the thing is if there is love there can be misunderstandings life mein ups and downs aati hai I cant give assurance that tmrw I wont make any mistake..i am a human being not a product..Look at my love..good things and if you want to stick to past..also see good things..she has broken my heart
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: saisan on July 17, 2009, 05:39:53 AM
give her time ..tell her u will wait for her and then don't argue ...she said she loves u then surely she will come back to u ...sai will bring her don't worry plz
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: saicharandhool on July 17, 2009, 05:42:10 AM
I have lost hope..it has become very very painful..I cant take the bluntness, the ease with which she says she doesnt want to be with me and also the fact that she doesnt understand me...main bahut naaraz hoon hurt hoon aur ab main aur bheek nahi mangna chahta..pyar mein log kya nahi sehte
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: saisan on July 17, 2009, 05:47:03 AM
ya leave it ..u have done ur best to get her back......if she is not getting convinced..leave her and leave everything to baba ...everything will be alright .. baba bless you .. om sai ram
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: v2birit on July 17, 2009, 05:53:03 AM
Saicharandhool ji, aapko Sai baba se pyaar karna chahiye.  Aur kahi pyaar karne me point nahi hai, kyoki sab assthayi hai. Kaam karte samay, apni aakhon ke saamne Sai baba ki Taswir rakhni chahiye. Sai baba bless you

Om Sai Ram.
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: saicharandhool on July 17, 2009, 06:04:31 AM
V2biritji..OM SAI RAM..mere samne baba ki tasveer hameshaa mere samne hoti hai aur woh pehle lagi hui hai..baba se pyar aur unki chahat to apar hai par insaan hoon ek jeevansaathi ki bhi zaroorat padti hai par aap shayad sach keh rahe hai baba ne har baar mujhe akela kar yehi bataya hai ko wohi mere saathi hai
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: saicharandhool on July 17, 2009, 06:12:22 AM
Saisanji..You are right insaan ko ek had tak efforts dene chahiye isse zyada karoonga to it will be like forcing..I have done my best and I have told her that if she wants to call me she can but I will not..I will always love her but wont express as I dnt want to force anything..Bas I am fully drained jitna kuch tha bata diya..being a guy I have been crying almost everyday..I have changed so many things..I have prayed...I have apologized I met her I opened my heart out..gave her all my love but if stil she feels that my mistakes were mor bigger than what can I do..Nobody will be happy as she loves but then what I can say..jo baba ka hukum.
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: saisan on July 17, 2009, 06:15:29 AM
ya charan ji,
leave on baba's feet .....vo jarror lakar denge unko aap ke paas...........baba bless you soon
om sai ram reham baba ... daya karo ...unite them soon
om sai om sai om sai om sai om sai om sai om sai om sai om sai om sai om sai om sai om sai om sai
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: saicharandhool on July 18, 2009, 01:32:20 AM
I am in a vulnarable position..I cant leave her and she is not ready to bury the grudges..whatever I say is either misunderstood or misinterpreted..Maybe I dont know how to express myself..More I try to bridge the gap it is increasing..Baba, Show me the way.
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: gunj on July 18, 2009, 01:41:45 AM
om sai ram manishji

kya hua aapka post padha,pichle kahi dino se main khud bhi pareshan thi,,aap kyu life mein aas chod rahe ho.
kya  ho raha hai apke saath .kuch acha hoga uske piche sai hai apke saath.

om sai ram
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: saicharandhool on July 18, 2009, 02:14:58 AM
OM sai ram Gunj,

Main bas thak gaya hoon life ke har aspect mein haar raha hoon..Main bahut expressive hoon aur meri baaton ka ya to galat matlab nikala jaa raha hai ya phir unhe samjha nahi jaa raha...I am just very confused aisa lagta hai sab chod doon kisi se baat hi na karoon sivay apne sai ke...Aap ko kya hua? kya uske ghar pe koi baat hui?
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: saicharandhool on July 18, 2009, 03:12:04 AM
Saisanji..How r things with you?

Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: gunj on July 18, 2009, 03:28:51 AM
om sai ram

manishji
baat nahi hui hai,bus mere aur uske bich mein problem hogai thi par kal usse mili main kalyan jaake now evrthng is fine,

u tell what happen too u y u talking like ths,
kya hua tell me briefly pls
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: saicharandhool on July 18, 2009, 04:08:19 AM
Gunj, Hum pichle dus din se baat kar rahe they jahan wahan woh sirf sunti hai bolti bahut kam hai aur agar main na boloon to kehti theek hai main rakhti hoon..Kabhi kabhi baaton mein aisa kuch keh jaati hai ki hurt hota hai jaise ki woh kabhi meri apni thi hi nahi..Phir bhi maine koshsish ki theek se bat karoon..Mujhe yehi samaj nahi aata ki main kaise baat karoon..dost ki tarah, kish had tak apne ko rokoon..call karoon nahi karoon..Us din raat baat karte waqt I got emotional and I started crying and I told her that I will call back after which she wrote me " I am sorry for everything that I have done to you..You are special for me and your family..Dont loose hope in life..Sorry for being blunt at times but I am going though pain " we spoke after that for sometime..Yesterday I asked her why she cant be with me if she loves then she said lets clear it out once for all..She said I have already spoken to my mom and all my relatives will laugh at me if we patch up again and whats the guarantee that we wont fight again and you wont abuse me again..She gave me lot of examples of past and she was right in saying that i have hurt her a lot..I just told her that I have realized,apologized,changed for you..If you will look at negatives of past then there will be many..I told her that there was a time when you hurt me but I forgived you for love's sake..Whatever bad I behaved was due to circumstances but did you try to be with me during those times..We could have sat sorted out..I am not a bad guy..atleast your love should have that much faith in me..both were in anger and b'coz of misuderstanding called it quits...Today when I love you and you also do the same then why to worry about people..If your relatives are true they wont laugh but infact support and guide you..those who laugh are not relatives..I said I can assure that I wont repeat my mistakes but being a human being I might make mistakes I am not a product with guarantee but I am honest...line got disconnected and after that in the night I told her that I am planning to get ganpati at home and if she can come..she said that in bible IDOL worship is nt prescribed so I have stopped going to church as well..I was hurt not b'coz she wouldnt do idol worship but she refused to come to my place as I thought if she wont come I want get ganpati home...I wrote a SMS " DONT LOOK FOR GOD IN GEETA,BIBLE its in us and if you break a loving heart then you are breaking temple of god" to which she replied " Even my heart is broken..Dont call me back" I wrote "whats my mistake " i called she answered and said that just b'coz I said about idol worship you got hurt I said its not about idol worship but about my feelings..I said whatever I am saying that is either being misinterpreted or always understood in wrong way...what should I do..I asked her do you want to talk to me if talking to me hurts you I wont she said I will send u mssg later but after that she did not..i called today morning and after few attempts she answered she was having lunch so I said call me when u r free but she has not called...tell me what should I think my mind is also not stable sometimes I feel the distance has increased so much that I cant bridge it alone but I dont want to leave her alone as I know she loves me but right now she is confused so am I..i am just confused about how * how much efforts should I put..I dont want to trouble her or hurt her but whatever I say somewhere hurts her..I am just very puzzled and tired
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: gunj on July 18, 2009, 04:37:57 AM
om sai ram manishji

aapko pata hai aapne jo unhe mgs ki ki dont serach god for in geeta or bible ,she got hurt from that and she thinks that u r the same gettng hurt by so small thnks ,she is rite sometime we misinterpretend the words of one another ,mere saath bhi hota hai mere words humesha galat matlab se le lia jate hai mer pyar ko mera acha bolna bhi bura lagt jata hai.aapko samjhana hoga unhe,aap pls uski baato ka galat matlab mat nikale,unhe kaho ki sorry apne unka galat matlab nikal lia,put more efforts,she is scared coz of the past incident,
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: saicharandhool on July 18, 2009, 04:40:41 AM
Haan maine sorry kahi aur clarify bhi kiya main kya kehna chahta hoon..par ab woh baat hi nahi karegi baar baar call karoonga to aisa lagega jaise main zabardasti kar raha hoon..pura dill khol ke rakh diya..insaan ko pyar,sach aur uski baaki cheeze bhi to dekhni chahiye.
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: Well-wisher on July 18, 2009, 04:08:39 PM
:) Dikhegi zaroor dikhegi. Aapka pyaar zaroor dikhega bhi aur mehsoos bhi hoga. Keep the faith strong. Sai Baba will set everything right. Sabhi ke liye kiya hai. Aapke liye bhi karenge.

Om Sai Ram
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: Well-wisher on July 20, 2009, 04:55:12 AM
Om Sai Ram
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: Anupam on July 20, 2009, 08:42:58 AM
> SPOKE TO HER AT LENGTH AND SHE HAS JUST SAID SHE WONT EVER CHANGE HER DECISION BECAUSE OF PAST THINGS AND WHAT SHE SAID TO HER PARENTS..I AM BROKEN RIGHT NOW BUT SHE WAS EXTERMELY FIRM ON HER DECISION AND FOR HER LOVE IS SECONDARY NOW EVEN THOUGH SHE LOVES ME SHE DOESNT WANT TO GET INTO COMMITMENT..I WILL NEVER ASK FROM BABA FOR MY LOVE I GAVE UP<

SAICHARANDHOOL JI SORRY TO SAY "YOU LOST NOTHING". THIS IS WHAT IS "SOFT HEARTED FEMALE". Decision based on nothing more than fatter purses.
Manishji I won't say anything to give false hopes I just pray Baba gives you the right Buddhi to see for urself. WHAT IF YOUR "LOVE" WUD HAVE LED U TO ALTER. WHAT WUD HAVE HAPPENED WHEN AFTER 1-2 YEARS OF COOING THE LIFE WUD HAVE DAWNED WITH FULL FORCE. Nothing remains static. When two people of different Samskars come together the result is devastating SAI SAVED U MAN, THANK  SAI MANY TIMES, INSTEAD OF WALLOWING IN GRIEF. Do not chase Chimeras and Mirages PLEASE.
Surrender to Sai rather than that FALSE LOVE. YOU SHUD NOW BE FIRMER.
I remember one great saying I read and it got inside me. (If it can give you some help I wud be happy)
"You broke my stars you killed my heart"
You broke my dreams you blacked me out.
You wanted to see me broken, begging and weeping
BUT I ASSURE YOU I WON'T DO ANY
I WILL SMILE, EVEN IF FAKE, I WILL COMMAND MY FEATURES TO FOLLOW
I WON'T GIVE A SATISFATION TO THEE TO SEE ME WEEP
I WILL EVEN DROWN U IN PSEUDO KINDNESS
"AND WHEN THE CHANCE ARISES WHICH IT WILL BE"
"I WILL RUTHLESSLY DO ONTO THEE WHAT U DID ONTO ME"
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: Well-wisher on July 20, 2009, 09:40:28 AM
May Sai heal you.

Om Sai Ram
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: saicharandhool on July 20, 2009, 11:36:05 PM
Anupamji, OM sai ram..I understand you might have a different prespective on my issue and I appreciate your concern for me but just to correct you she has been with me for last 2 1/2 years and I have been in financial crisis always but she never complaint about it..She knew everything well before she spoke to her parents about marriage and if she was more worried about purses she would have never approached her parents for our marriage..Infact my position is little better now then at that point of time..As a guy I have always seen we tend to blame girls most of the times but that is not true..I have seen her helpness and in last 3 days I have realized how wrongly I have behaved with her and her heart was so broken that cannot be healed and if at all it can heal it will take time..I abused her..I said many wrong things..I gave her so many complexes and after that also she is talking to me that's her greatness..I dont want anything from her now and I dont need anything from anyone..I have changed in last 3 days which is unimaginable..my emotions and expectations have died after my inner voice has conveyed that I am bad and whatever life gives me I should take it..She is struggling with her health and I just wish and pray that she gets well and gets all the happiness in the world..I have stopped troubling her now...I have decided that I will never go any temple,church ever again as I am a sinner and cant show my face to baba..I wish I would have been a better humanbeing..Take care and god bless every true person.
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: saisan on July 20, 2009, 11:50:06 PM
om sai ram
i am ok, left with only 2 options waiting and praying

please don't worry ..baba will guide you and now ur done ur part rest leave to baba.
don't stop going to temple........instead go to temple ..it is the place where u get some peace.stop worrying
baba will bless u soon
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: saicharandhool on July 20, 2009, 11:55:04 PM
I am feeling ashamed on my deeds..I dont feel I have the purity to enter an holy place.
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: saisan on July 21, 2009, 12:01:07 AM
don't feel like that........... baba will give u answers to what ever questions ur getting in mur mind.......so don't stop
tell him to guide u he will do ........
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: saicharandhool on July 21, 2009, 12:09:05 AM
Trust me I dont want any answers..I have realized my mistakes and after doing so many bad deeds i dont want baba to bless me..I hope he punishes me but in a way that my family doesnt get hurt as these are my bad deeds.
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: saisan on July 21, 2009, 12:15:06 AM
bcoz of karmas we wil do good or bad deeds........ sai baba ke nazar me koi acha ya bura nahin hota
he is like mother ....u can tell anything to ur mother
see now past is past look for the future..........u have realized that itself is that ur good at heart.
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: vidyarp on July 21, 2009, 12:39:53 AM
Hi...All i can say is after a point in time, u just cannot pursue things...just learn to let go. If it comes back, it was yours, if it doesn't, then it was never meant to be.
Dont beat yourself or dont put her on a pedestal. Just take a step back and see where are u going. Look where you want to be in the next 5-10 years...things will fall in place. Sometimes we get so much engrossed in our issues that we do not step back and look at the bigger picture. Do that...it will help u see things from a different perspective. It helped me...and i'm sure it'll help u.

Baba is there to take care of you...Om Sai Ram
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: saicharandhool on July 21, 2009, 12:54:27 AM
oM Sai ram..Vidyarpji thanks a ton for your kind words
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: Well-wisher on July 21, 2009, 03:25:56 AM
Om Sai Ram
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: chweetujaanu on July 21, 2009, 12:30:53 PM
saicharan ji how are you?

its been long speaking to u

i wanna tell u a thing i donno whether ia m correect or not.. u have realised ur mistakes u wanna rectify them its true that she will not be willing to commit but just think she loves you its only ur acts that made her heart pain so much...

its not that u r begging her its a way of rectifying ur mistakes i know its very painful but dont let it go away from ur hands just think with a calm mind and haeart filled with love not pain..

baba show charanji a right way of thinking about things..

omsairam
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: saicharandhool on July 21, 2009, 11:10:52 PM
Hi Cheetuji...I am doing fine it seems like my emotions have died since last sunday when I spoke to her..I still love her a lot but since I have realized all the more my mistakes and the pain which she has gone through b'coz of that I decided not to disturb her anymore..I dont want to hurt her..I send her one sms a day showing that I am around..Yesterday I didnt send one then she smsd in the night asking how am I and goodnight..I could see she was helpless and if I would have behaved little better things wouldnt have gone out of the hands but my anger..I never realized whatever I said to her will hurt her so much and one day eventually when I hear my words I will feel ashamed..I love her a lot but now I dont expect anything..I just want her happiness and if its without me its fine with me..How r things with you?
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: saisan on July 21, 2009, 11:16:59 PM
charanji , she loves u for sure....plz just bcz ur emotions hav died don't loose her.
if she is not worried for u she wud have smsd u and asked abt ur well being...plz baba is helping u plz don't loose patience.
just some more days see by aug month all things will improve and u will be happy......... life me aisa mat karna ki afterwards regret karna pade.plzzzzzzzzzzzz think abt it.
baba bless u soon ......... om sai ram
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: saicharandhool on July 21, 2009, 11:50:24 PM
Saisanji..even I dont want to loose her and I know she loves me but what should I do when I talk to her I get confused as for me she is my life partner so I start expecting, telling her things and sometimes she doesnt want it that way.. I dont know whatever I say in someway or the other hurts her..I feel after what I have done to her its better that she gets much better person.
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: saisan on July 21, 2009, 11:56:55 PM
charanji ur best person for her otherwise baba wud have not helped in getting in contact with her.
u can keep her happy give this confidence slowly ........she will come back to u don't worry
baba wil bring her to u .....now ur suffering after this u will only hapiness trust me..
change urself as the way she wants u to be ....better just talk to her in less words which will not hurt her unknowingly
baba will guide u tell baba to guide and help u .om sai ram
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: Anupam on July 22, 2009, 01:50:46 AM
Saicharandhoolji, Manishji, I'am not entitled and do not want to interfere in ur personal life. Take it as a friendly thing. However, if you want to beg her that's ur call, remember the following
"Bin Maange Moti milaen, Maange milae naa bheekh"
There is a true story which happened to Nehru in 1957, he went on a visit to a hospital. There is saw a person neatly dressed, just having a Photo in his hand and talking to himself, blabbering incoherently. Nehru asked the Dr about his problem and the Dr replied that the photo is of his LOVE whom he could not marry, so he lost his balance. In the adjacent room there was another man shabbily dressed, photo in his hand who was blabering angrily, Nehru again asked the Dr about this person, and the reply he got shocked Nehru. HE TOLD THAT THIS IS THE PERSON WHO "MARRIED" THE FORMER'S "LOVE"
How much are you loosingon ur job, career, troubling ur family with this so called Heartbreak. V2birit ji is right.
Another thing which Baba said always. Baba's Bhaktas cannot be given life partners, who do not match each other in Bhakti, frequency, etc. as they wud be wasting life time just adjusting to each other
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: saicharandhool on July 22, 2009, 02:00:55 AM
Dear Anupamji, You are not interfering but we have a different view on things..I understand you might be having your own experiences but I might have different ones..From my point of view when you hurt somebody very badly then no matter how many times I apologize..a hurt takes time to heal..when love is true it can be felt..a person who loves you can only be harsh to you..I am not begging for anything as love is much bigger than these things..If she is not destined for me then she would not be with me but now I have taken myself on such a level where I love her and respect her without any expectations..Marriage is something which cannot be guaranteed be it love or arranged..regarding matching frequency if inspite of so many problems if we are able to speak to each other that says something about the feelings on both ends but sometimes circumstances take toll on emotions..anywz..I have changed as person and I believe whatever has to happen will happen and I just wish she should be happy and I will find out a way very soon.
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: Anupam on July 22, 2009, 02:54:00 AM
Saicharandhool ji, Yes I feel everybody is entitled to feel the way they want. However, the real hard fact is THERE IS NOTHING CALLED LOVE WHICH EXISTS in the world. It is actually the trine of one (material) levels of conciousness, which is called LOVE.(See its 4 letters)
Can u just recollect and feel what you felt every minute on 22nd July 2008. Nobody can, so just remeber "Past is history, future is mystery" however our future is created by us in present.
Theory of Chaos in Mathematics has a law, that a fluttering butterfly here creates a tornado somewhere in Universe, and that somewhere MAY BE ur future. So get out of it, think logically and you wud know it is just a mismatch between Seratonin and adrenalin hormones. Nothing More.
My sincere request is just stop chasing chimeras and mirages. Whatever is due to u will flow to u effortlessly, THERE IS NO CONFLICT IN UNIVERSE. You have just to align urself
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: saicharandhool on July 22, 2009, 03:03:53 AM
Anupamji, I wish I was as theoretical as your views..Its true that I may not recollect on 22nd july but there are many days on which I recollect what happened maybe not every minute but most touching moments of that day...If I had to think logically then according to logic baba was just another saint and there is no god..science is reponsible for every action in this universe...Sir, Bhakti aur feelings dont work according to only some hormones...Aap mano to pyar hota hai naa mano to nahi hota..kya zaroorat hai ek forum mein ek fakir sant ke zariye itne saare log jude hai..ek dusre ka dukh baatte hai aur kisi ki khushi se khush hote hai..we dont even know each other...So everything cannot be in black and white in this world..I can get many other girls and she culd many other guys..its not only about attraction..attraction hoti hai har rishtey mein par sirf attraction hi nahi hoti aur bahut kuch hota hai..Whenever she cries I get hurt..There are many things jo samajh ke bahar aur sach poochiye to jo chal raha hai chalne do...Kabhi dhoond lega yeh karvaan woh nayi zameen naya aasman jise dhoondti hai meri nazar..thanks for your suggestions and god bless u.
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: Well-wisher on July 22, 2009, 04:36:51 AM
"THERE IS NO CONFLICT IN UNIVERSE. You have just to align urself ."

I love that sentance. Wish it were that easy. :) But sure, its the right thing to do.

Manishji... if she's urs she'll be urs for life no matter what. But if its not meant to be... no matter how strong our feelings are... as Anupamji says... "You'll have just to align urself ." Unfortunately... no matter how hard it hurts, thats all we can do. Accept & re-align. I'll just pray it becomes easy for all of us... including me... or God showers us all with miracles...

Om Sai Ram

Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: gunj on July 23, 2009, 02:17:45 AM
OM SAI RAM MANISHJI

HOW R U,WOT HAPPNING IN UR LIFE PLS SHARE WITH ME
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: saicharandhool on July 23, 2009, 02:37:59 AM
Om sai ram gunj...Nothing much is happening har jagah loss dekh raha hoon but I am very cool right now maine kal ki sochna chod diya hai jo hota hai main sirf dekhta hoon aur aage bad raha hoon...I did not speak to her for last 4 days..sirf har din sms karta tha..aaj usse phone kiya thodi der baat hui..Par kuch umeed nahi hai mere man mein..bhai ki job ka bhi kuch ban nahi raha...life is kind of standing still...You tell me aap kya chal raha hai..
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: Well-wisher on July 23, 2009, 02:52:30 AM
Om Sai Ram, Baba help me live in the present!
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: saicharandhool on July 23, 2009, 03:00:55 AM
Wellwisherji..sab hamare haathon mein hai..aap apne aap ko strong banaye to sab ho sakta hai
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: gunj on July 23, 2009, 04:07:44 AM
om sai ram manishji

meri life is come to an halt ,i m so confused in my life regarding my career i cnt thnk wot to do,i want to get married and wnt to be a house wife and at other time i want to a successful women independent ,but i m nt happy with my current job.
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: chweetujaanu on July 23, 2009, 11:18:13 AM
saicharan ji..

baba will surely forgive us for our deeds read my post in saibabahelp me section how baba replied that he has forgiven me for my past deeds...

hez given u the chance please dont lose that opportunity here we all are waiting for such opportunity please takecare of urself and even of her u must give more love to her now u must stick to baba more now this is the main phase of testing please dont give up u will succeed in this test of baba and will be blessed with sabina and her love..

baba please show minish ji a way..

omsairam
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: saicharandhool on July 23, 2009, 11:12:01 PM
Dear Cheewtuji,

Thanks for your encouragement..I have not given up but whatever I do now I do it without any expectations..my deeds are very bad and I feel not worth forgiving..I am trying to make her smile but at the sametime I make sure I dont do something which will hurt her..Thankyou for your blessing..main to baba ke samne jaane ki himmat nahi rakhta aap sab hamare liye dua kare.
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: SAUMYA on July 23, 2009, 11:33:04 PM
A pagal kaisa hai tu?mai phir aa gayee hoon lecture deney..bhool ja mere bhai.........AUR BHI GAM HAI JAMANE MEY MOHABBAT KE SIWA....sab theek ho jayega bharosa rakh......jo hota hai achey ke liye he hota hai......sunder aur susheel bhabi aayegi tumhare liye.aur sirf tumhare liye.....tab yaad karna is behab ki baat ko......sab theek ho jayga
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: saicharandhool on July 23, 2009, 11:53:25 PM
Sab bhool to gaya hoon behan..kuch umeed nahi..koi aayega nahi aayega main woh sab nahi sochta is waqt bas akela rehna chahta hoon..jaise bhi haal mein hoon khush hoon...aap batao kaisa chal raha hai sab?
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: SAUMYA on July 24, 2009, 12:36:39 AM
A pagal depression se bahar aaja.maine yeh waqt dekha hai.....bahut painful hota hai........unbearable pai......ek waqt thaa jab mujhw 31st december se darr lagta thaa,ki ek aur saal intezaar me gujar gaya...tumhare saath bhi sab acha hoga....ma kaisi hai.unke pair ka dard ab kaisa hai
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: saicharandhool on July 24, 2009, 01:39:07 AM
Ae behnaa..tumhara bhai pagla hai par depression mein nahi jayegaa..u know why I am not just a lover but also a fighter..Dard hai aur woh rahegaa par main apni zimmedariyon ko nibhana bhi janta hoon..Maa theek hai par khush nahi..bas dua kijiye..aap batao kya chal raha hai?
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: Well-wisher on July 24, 2009, 05:47:26 AM
Om Sai Ram, Om Sai Ram, Om Sai Ram, Om Sai Ram, Om Sai Ram, Om Sai Ram, Om Sai Ram, Om Sai Ram,
Om Sai Ram, Om Sai Ram, Om Sai Ram, Om Sai Ram, Om Sai Ram, Om Sai Ram
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: saib on July 25, 2009, 05:59:36 AM
Help Sai.
Let us perform well on stage of life, No matter win or get defeat.
Life is a mystery. What is happening? Why is happening?
Every answered question creates another question.

Help all to realize truth and live a simple life!

om sri sai ram!
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: gunj on July 27, 2009, 01:47:21 AM
OM SAI RAM MANISHJI

HOW R U, AND WHAT HAPPEN ,IS SHE IS TALKING TO U.HOW IS SHE?
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: saicharandhool on July 27, 2009, 01:52:53 AM
Hi Gunj,

We are talking on regular basis..yesterday she kind of said that she is scared of taking responsibilites..there are few things which she feels she wont be able to do after marriage..I was thinking right that she has been shown some negatives of getting inter religion marriage..I asked her one question tell me whether you want to do things and if yes then dont feel you cant do it..we couldnt speak afterwards but I feel I need to sit with her and understand her fears and try find out a way if possible..Why are u confused about your career ?
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: gunj on July 27, 2009, 02:43:09 AM
om sai ram

u r right u have to sit with her and have to know what r the fears or her.me too get scare sometime for future responsibilties,mine love also other caste,i dnt knw ho to cope up with ths diff cultural marriage ,
ask her to talk to u open heartly,so that u can help her.

Regarding me i m confused as i cnt understand whch career to choose rite now searching for other job as i wnt to leave ths current job of mine as the enviroment of here n sir intention r nt good.my love told me to just leave ths one .
i m preparing for insurance exam and also applying for govt jobs ,like bank.bmc or ne govt office.Yesterday i got my MSCIT certificate ow i will nt face problem for applying govt job,i got 82% marks in MSCIT ,i hve done mscit only for certification to apply for govt job,in sept there is bank exam.
i m nt gtng time to study how will i get clear thn,today gone for an interview to a dvocate firm .thy will gng to tell me after 2 days whether i got appointed or nt.just hope that i get ths job,as i m leaving my current in ths month itself.i want money to apply for govt jobs so i have to work.
hope sai will help me in ths n get me ths job.
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: saisan on July 27, 2009, 02:44:43 AM
yes charan ji
sit with her and talk ..don't put any conditions
tell we will live like which ever is comfortable t ou
om sai ram baba bless them .... keep praying he is with u
i can see things are improving keep going om sai ram
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: saicharandhool on July 27, 2009, 02:55:55 AM
Saisanji,Gunj...Things change so rapidly..Today I spoke to her and now she says she has her own problems so she cant be with me plus now she is following bible so she cant do idol worship and for her bible is the biggest thing..She said lot of things which hurt me..I was silent then and I am silent now and the more I have tried the more distance has increased..she is thinking on wrong track and that will lead her in trouble but who am I just a failed person himself..Anywayz I dont have any more strength to make her understand b'coz she is not ready to think or pay attention to right things..first time in life I quit something..She said I am selfish that I stopped going to temple and church but my baba knows what mistake I made and why i am not showing my face to him..I am a sinner and will be suffering on every step of life..thanks all of you for being there and I hope and pray things go well for all of you..god bless.
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: gunj on July 27, 2009, 03:21:04 AM
OM SAI RAM

MANISHJI
U HAVE TO MAKE HER UNDERSTAND THAT NO GOD IS DIFFERNT ALL R ONE GOD IS ONE WHETHER IT IS IN JESUS,SAI,GURUNANAK,BUDDHA,ALLAH OR ELSE THEY R SAME .GOD IS ONE.
IF SHE IS FOLLOWING BIBLE LET HER DO THAT DNT FORCE HER TO WORSHIP NE OTHER GOD IDOL .I DNT KNOW WHAT MAKE HER THINK LIKE THS .I DNT BELEIVE THAT JESUS HAVE EVER TOLD THAT THING THAT IF U FOLLOW ME U CNT WORSHIP OTHER GOD,LET HER FOLLOW WHAT SHE WANTS THE ULTIMATE RESULT IS SHE IS WORSHIPING A GOD WHICH IS ONE .U DNT GET HURT THINK THAT SHE IS WORSHIPING SAI IN THE FORM OF JESUS .SAI NE KAHA HAI NA SAI SAB MEIN HAI SABKA MALIK EK HAI.
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: saicharandhool on July 27, 2009, 03:29:39 AM
I want my lifeparnter to have a broad vision of god but she has just restricted her life to whatever bible says and the sad part is everybody has their own interpretation of bible..I am tired but the only reason I am trying is b'coz this thinking wont help her in future.
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: saicharandhool on July 27, 2009, 03:33:07 AM
I request if I am little bit honest and right then give me strength to forget her and leave her alone the way she wants to...It hurts to be completetly misunderstood.
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: gunj on July 27, 2009, 04:25:50 AM
om sai ram
dnt be so heart broken sai is there with u always .
dnt be so sad,sai ne kuch kia hai toh acha hi hoga .evry event has a reason behind it ,
so be sit and see what sai is trying to give u
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: saicharandhool on July 27, 2009, 04:32:16 AM
Main sai ka ek naalayak beta hoon par jo bhi ho raha hai dharm ke naam par yeh sahi nahi hai..I always have kept parents and my country above any religion and also thought helping needy ones is the best worship..I dont mind her she not doing idol worship but I want these things for my maa who believes in this..I think time has come to move and give away all my efforts as a person whose vision is so narrow who will restrict her life to a holy book and not care for loved ones then it cannot work...I need someone who is daughter to my parents..who is selfless in her love..who sees god in her loved ones and her responsibilities..
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: saisan on July 27, 2009, 05:04:19 AM
charan ji i feel, she is imature as she is 20, at this stage u get influenced by others
so keep ur self cool and then discuss hope this works
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: Well-wisher on July 27, 2009, 09:26:07 AM
Om Sai Ram, Om Sai Ram, Om Sai Ram, Om Sai Ram, Om Sai Ram, Om Sai Ram, Om Sai Ram, Om Sai Ram,
Om Sai Ram, Om Sai Ram, Om Sai Ram
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: Well-wisher on July 29, 2009, 04:03:46 AM
sai sai sai sai sai sai sai sai sai sai sai sai sai sai sai sai sai sai sai sai sai sai sai sai sai sai sai sai sai sai
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: gunj on July 30, 2009, 04:35:24 AM
om sai ram manishji

r u there.how r u, n wot going on ,kya wo aapse baat kar rahi hai kuch change hua ki nahi
n unki health kaisi hai ab
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: Anupam on July 30, 2009, 06:57:54 AM
>>Today I spoke to her and now she says she has her own problems so she cant be with me plus now she is following bible so she cant do idol worship and for her bible is the biggest thing<<

Saicharandhool ji THEN UR ANSWER SHUD HAVE BEEN EQUALLY STEELY. FOR U SAI/RAMAYANA/GEETA shud have been the biggest thing.

>> think time has come to move and give away all my efforts as a person whose vision is so narrow who will restrict her life to a holy book and not care for loved ones then it cannot work...I need someone who is daughter to my parents..who is selfless in her love..who sees god in her loved ones and her responsibilities..<<

This is a spirit Manishji, GREAT GREAT GREAT. Now u have realised the narrowness of vision BABA IS laways there to help u find out ur soulmate as u desire for parents. One thing Manishji, interreligious thing DID NOT work for even Rajiv Gandhi and he had to become Roberto Gandhi.
MANISHJI I ADMIRE UR SPIRIT NOW. BABA IS ALWAYS WITH u. Now u r showing the Grit and Determination
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: SAUMYA on July 31, 2009, 12:37:34 AM
Manish,mere bhai very well done......really appreciated......fought for love tried to make her understand...above all you give value to your mother's wish to get a daughter who willl take care of her family with love n affection rather than conditions...very gud...SAI PLEASE HELP MY BROTHER
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: saib on August 02, 2009, 01:28:40 AM
There is time of everything.
Good time comes.
Just need to practice Faith & Patience!
om sri sai ram!
Title: Re: I HAVE LOST
Post by: Well-wisher on August 06, 2009, 04:07:01 AM
Om Sai Ram, Om Sai Ram, Om Sai Ram, Om Sai Ram, Om Sai Ram, Om Sai Ram, Om Sai Ram