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Offline swathikrishna

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Re: Misunderstanding with inlaws
« Reply #60 on: December 08, 2006, 07:18:19 PM »
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  • om sri swamiye saranam ayyappa
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    sai ram baba
    plese give strength to ur children baba
    please show the way to get rid of her problems baba
    baba u r only the way for us baba
    i love u baba
    we need ur blessings baba
    please save all ur childrens baba
    i love u
    we r all loving u forever baba
    please save us n be with us forever
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    Offline sureshsarat

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    Re: Misunderstanding with inlaws
    « Reply #61 on: December 09, 2006, 10:30:25 AM »
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  • Dear Sister
    As subhasriniji said very truly, you be pure in your heart and actions. Hold no grudge, forgive them immediately. It will relieve the tension and anxiety in you.If you bear the grudge or ill feeling, you will be the one suffering. BABA taught every one the unique message of loving all. He has immense love for all devotees even if they approach him unfaithfully, untrusting or evil intentions. Put the Burden on Shri SAI SAMARTH. He is a great wirepuller. He will bring about the change. May baba shower his blessings on you.
    Suresh

    Offline bohemianbab

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    Re: Misunderstanding with inlaws
    « Reply #62 on: December 11, 2006, 06:28:49 PM »
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  • It is shameful that some parents become so selfish and insecure when their son is married that they try every possible strategy to bring in disharmony in lives of their children.Baba Sai,Please change this world.Change the mind of such evil people.Give them enough wisdom to become selfless and respectworthy.Our society cannot move forward and become a joyful community   until and unless each family understands and values the importance of love,affection,selflessness,respect,justice and truth.Please give courage to those who follow your path.Please shake those who are evil and malified....Even I ask you to use the power of your""Satka" to put such people back on track who ruin the happiness of others by being jealous and wicked.
    Dear Friend'Sunita and others who are facing similar situations,Try not to get affected by remarks of evil people in your environment.Be strong and balanced.It i not easy but try to get out of such situation for sometime mentally and create a beautiful world within yourself.People say that being a married woman, you must sacrifice,compromise more,and tolerate.I am sorry but i donot think it makes much sense.I hv myself seen all this so closely and applied it, but then i feel, many women are mentally and physically tortured even  because they become the punchbags and door mats for their husband and his family.We can easily say that all this is due to past karma,but maybe, if we take action-legal punishment againt such evil people,that too is result of karma of those evil people.Life is such a beautiful experience.Why are some people so dumb and deaf and blind????I donot understand what they gain out of doing politics and dramas in their own homes..Go out! Look at the clear blue sky,the cool breeze..sing a lullaby for your little one..hear some soothing chants..why you waste so much time, emotion and energy on such useless creatures?they donot deserve even a second of your precious time!Baba,Please help my friends..give them wisdom and courage.Come as an angel to their lives and bless them .One day,we all will be so old.Our faces should have a natural curl upwards on our lips..not drooping ones.We mut grow old gracefully and peacefully..and welcome our future life.There should be no worry, no fear,no insecurity.Please cuddle everyone baba,please love everyone.all children need love.Love you from the core of my heart!Baba,please make me write something which shakes up people ..and they are bound to get up ,wash their faces,wear nice clothes,looking the mirror ,smile at themselves..sing songs .Please wipe everyones tears.Tell them to become like small children..tell them to jump around,scream with joy and laughter..tell them to dance like mad ..pleae tell them to LIVE LIFE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
     

    Offline Kavitaparna

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    Re: Misunderstanding with inlaws
    « Reply #63 on: December 11, 2006, 08:56:43 PM »
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  • OM SRI SAI RAM

    Dear Babita, Sai Ram !

    As you have mentioned, it is not only ‘some parents’ most of the parents are like this – of course, mainly MIL and fathers in law mostly become calm when it comes to the matter of dealing with DILs I/O guiding their wives which they will be doing in all unwarranted matters.

    One of my observations is, some of the boys realize the existence of parents only after they are married and start giving so much importance to them (which they would never have given in their life till then) that they give all the liberties to the parents to even spoil their married life. They don’t mind sacrificing all their good days to satisfy the parents ego / psychic problems towards DIL. (and may even go for a divorce thinking that their parents are capable of finding an alternative within no time)

    A simple and polite request made by a boy to his mother, in private, about her treatment definitely alarms the mother about the fact that the boy is not liking her attitude towards the new addition of the family who has come in with lots of hopes. Such comment will definitely have a  positive impact on the other members such as BILs and SILs too. Similarly a decent remark if the wife errs, in privacy, will make the wife too understand the value the boy has for his people.

    When a girl is suffering, indirectly it means that the boy also must be suffering / not enjoying. But, the mind of the boys do not analyse these. They blindly accept they all are right, That’s it. Another kind of boys – though they know what is right and what is wrong, don’t open their mouth with a fear that, they may be branded as “henpecked” “Invertebrates” etc. So inturn they start thinking why the girl can not adjust to this..etc. Already, the  girls have a lot many adjustments after marriage in many respects ( only can a girl understand these) compared to those of a boy. So the patience levels of the girls start diminishing and they may tend to commit one or two mistakes OR behave in a different way which may not be their basic nature at all.

    Many a time, the mothers of the girls too take their share. When a girl expresses her problems, to the mother, instead of giving proper guidance ( since mother was also a DIL and faced worser problems during her times) , she takes the side of the daughter and passes comments which may look like “sympathizing” or “soothing”  which is momentary but serves no purpose than polluting the mind further.
     
    Many women continue with the husbands with a hope of good days to commence and also to ensure a respectful life for their children and that the future of the children should not be spoilt.

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    kavita
    « Last Edit: December 12, 2006, 10:19:45 AM by Kavitaparna »
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    Re: Misunderstanding with inlaws
    « Reply #64 on: December 11, 2006, 09:16:51 PM »
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  • OM SRI SAI RAM

    One more thing I wish to add is,

    Compromises and Sacrifices are part and parcel of any one's life - irrespective of the fact - whether it is married life ; official life; Personal life etc.

    COMPROMISES AND SACRIFICES MUST BE A PART OF ANY ONE'S LIFE WHENEVER AND WHEREVER IT IS WORTH TO MAKE ONE'S LIVING A HAPPIER ONE.

    BY SACRIFICING A VERY GOOD MOVIE ON TELEVISION, FOR WHICH ONE MUST HAVE BEEN WAITING TO WATCH, TRY TO SEEK PLEASURE IN RECEIVING  AN OLD FRIEND.

    BY SACRIFICING PARTICIPATION  IN YOUR SISTER'S BIRTHDAY PARTY, TAKE CARE OF YOUR AILING MOTHER IN LAW WHO IS BADLY IN NEED OF ATTENTION.

    BY COMPROMISING A LOT ON YOUR VARIOUS VANITY EXPENDITURES, SAVE A HUGE AMOUNT THAT BECOMES MARGIN FOR YOUR HOUSING LOAN.

    BY COMPROMISING WITH YOUR HUSBAND ON A MATTER WHICH YOU MAY NOT HAVE LIKED (OR YU ARE SURE YOU ARE RIGHT) GIVES YOU UNIMAGINABLE HAPPINESS WHEN YOU LATER COME TO KNOW THAT HE HAS RETURNED HOME TERRIBLY TIRED FIGHTING WITH HIS BOSS or AFTER AN UNPLEASANT HAPPENING

    COMPROMISES AND SACRIFICES ENHANCE YOUR IMAGE - WHATEVER BE THE SECTION - I MEAN - MARRIED /OFFICIAL / PERSONAL / SOMETIMES HEALTH TOO (SOMETIMES WE DO NEGLECT OUR HEALTH WHEN AN URGENT FILE HAS TO BE ATTENDED TO ; A MOTHER DEFINITELY RAISES TO THE OCCASSION IN RUSHING HER SON TO THE DOCTOR EVEN IF SHE HAS BEEN BEDRIDDEN FOR LONG WHEN THE SITUATION WARRANTS).

    Om Sri  Sai Ram!  Om Sri  Sai Ram!  Om Sri  Sai Ram!  Om Sri  Sai Ram!  Om Sri  Sai Ram!
    Om Sri  Sai Ram!  Om Sri  Sai Ram!  Om Sri  Sai Ram!  Om Sri  Sai Ram!  Om Sri  Sai Ram!
    Om Sri  Sai Ram!  Om Sri  Sai Ram!  Om Sri  Sai Ram!  Om Sri  Sai Ram!  Om Sri  Sai Ram!

    kavita
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