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Title: 15 things to "Give Up ...."
Post by: ShAivI on August 25, 2014, 03:53:43 AM
OM SAI RAM!!!

Here is a list of 15 things, which, if you give up on them, will make your life
a lot easier and you'll feel much, much happier. We hold on to so many things
that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering and instead of letting
them all go and allowing ourselves to be stress-free and happy, we cling on to them.

Well, not anymore. Starting today, we will give up on all those things that no
longer serve us, and we will embrace change. Ready?

Here we go!

1. Give up your need to always be right.

There are so many of us who can't stand the idea of being wrong wanting
to always be right even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing
a great deal of stress and pain for us and for others. It's just not worth it.
Whenever you feel the 'urgent' need to jump into a fight over who is right
and who is wrong, ask yourself this question from Dr. Wayne Dyer:
'Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?' What difference will
that make? Is your ego really that big?

2. Give up your need for control.

Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that happens
to you and around you situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are
loved ones, co-workers, or just strangers you meet on the street just allow
them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you
will see how much better will that make you feel. 'By letting it go, it all gets done.
The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world
is beyond winning.' Lao Tzu

3. Give up on blame.

Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don't have, for what
you feel or don't feel. Stop giving your powers away and start taking responsibility
for your life.

4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk.

Oh my. How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative,
polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don't believe everything that
your mind is telling you especially if it's negative and self-defeating. You are better
than that. 'The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however,
it becomes very destructive.' Eckhart Tolle

5. Give up your limiting beliefs about what you can or cannot do, about what is
possible or impossible.

From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck
in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly! 'A belief is not an idea held by the mind,
it is an idea that holds the mind.'

6. Give up complaining.

Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many, many things people,
situations and events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make
you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It's
not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it.
Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.

7. Give up the luxury of criticism.

Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that are different than you.
We are all different, yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want
to love and be loved and we all want to be understood. We all want something,
and something is wished by us all.

8. Give up your need to impress others.

Stop trying so hard to be something that you're not just to make others like you.
It doesn't work this way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that
you're not, the moment you take of all your masks, the moment you accept and
embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.

9. Give up your resistance to change.

Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will help you make
improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you. Follow your bliss,
embrace change don't resist it. 'Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors
for you where there were only walls.'

10. Give up labels.

Stop labeling the things, people or events that you don't understand as being
weird or different and try opening your mind, little by little. Minds only work
when open.The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something
you don't know anything about.'

11. Give up on your fears.

Fear is just an illusion, it doesn't exist you created it. It's all in your mind. Correct
the inside and the outside will fall into place. 'The only thing we have to fear,
is fear itself.'

12. Give up your excuses.

A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use. Instead of
growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck and lie
to ourselves, using all kind of excuses. Excuses that 99.9% of the time,
 are not even real.

13. Give up the past.

I know, I know. This one's hard. Especially when the past looks so much better
than the present and the future looks so frightening. But, you have to take into
consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will
ever have. The past you are now longing for the past that you are now dreaming
about was ignored by you when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present
 in everything you do and enjoy life. After all, life is a journey not a destination.
Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be present
in the now.

14. Give up attachment.

This is a concept that, for most of us, is so hard to grasp and I have to tell you that
it was for me too (it still is), but it's not impossible. You get better and better at it
with time and practice. The moment you detach yourself from all things (and that
doesn't mean you give up your love for them because love and attachment have
nothing to do with one another. Attachment comes from a place of fear, while love
well, real love is pure, kind, and selfless; where there is love there can't be fear,
and because of that, attachment and love cannot co-exist) you become so peaceful,
so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a place where you will be able
to understand all things without even trying. A state beyond words.

15. Give up living your life to other people's expectations.

Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according
to what others think is best for them; they live their lives according to what their parents
think is best for them; to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their
government and the media think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice, that
inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up to other people's
expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy,
what they want, what they need and eventually, they forget about themselves. You have
one life this one right now you must live it, own it, and especially don't let other people's
opinions distract you from your path.

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OM SAI RAM, SRI SAI RAM, JAI JAI SAI RAM !!!
Title: Re: 15 things to "Give Up ...."
Post by: PiyaSoni on August 25, 2014, 06:15:11 AM
OmSaiRam

Thanks for sharing...nice post

SaiRam!!
Title: Re: 15 things to "Give Up ...."
Post by: srivi on September 24, 2014, 08:17:59 PM
nice posting