Hi,
Be patient enough to go thru' the following, its really good & does make
you realise the tiny-miny mistakes that we all make in our day to day life.
Title: The 90/10 principle Author : Stephen Covey
Discover the 90/10 Principle. It will change your life (at least the way
you react to situations). What is this principle?
10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by
how you react.
What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what happens to
us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late
arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in
traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You
determine the other 90%. How? By your reaction. You cannot control a red
light., but you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU
can control how you react.
Let's use an example. You are eating breakfast with your family. Your
daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no
control over what just what happened. What happens when the next will be
determined by how you react. You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for
knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you
turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the
edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and
change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too
busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the
bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and
drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an
hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60
traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the
building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes
late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As
it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming
home, When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with
your spouse and daughter.
Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is D. You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How
you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. Here is what
could have and should have happened. Coffee splashes over you. Your
daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "It's ok honey, you just need, to
be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After
grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look
through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and
waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss
comments on how good the day you are having.
Notice the difference? Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both
ended different. Why? Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have
any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your
reaction.
Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle.
If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the
attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative
comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong
reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out
etc.
How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your
temper? Pound on the steering wheel? (A friend of mine had the steering
wheel fall off) Do you curse? Does your blood pressure sky-rocket? Do you
try and bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why
let the cars ruin your drive? Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not
worry about it.
You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will
work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job.
The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why
take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over
what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger.
Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse. Now you know the
90/10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will
lose nothing if you try it.
The 90/10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle.
The result? Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress,
trials, problems and heartache. There never seem to be a success in life.
Bad days follow bad days. Terrible things seem to be constantly happening.
There is constant stress, lack of joy, and broken relationships. Worry
consumes time. Anger breaks friendships and life seems dreary and is not
enjoyed to the fullest. Friends are lost. Life is a bore and often seems
cruel. Does this describe you? If so, do not
be discouraged .
You can be different! Understand and apply the 90/10 principle. It will
change your life.
AND REMEMBER WE MUST LEARN TO CONTROL OUR EMOTIONS & NOT LET OUR EMOTIONS
CONTROL US...
Take care
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