Hi Ganesh
I wish if this topic was posted earlier and had my s******* seen this and understood the impact of it on someone's life.I am not so fortunate to have got my best friend as my wife but yet lucky to have got someone better as my life partner and wife,but yet i feel like i am not the same old zubiliant,pleasant personality as i was once amongst my friends.Its very hard to explain to people who compromises with their happiness and believes in moving on with life as a + approach.Who misinterpret and considers playing with others sentiments as a sacrifice that they have done to make someone's life.They don't have foresight of seeing the calamity that his or her decison can bring on other person.They don't understand that by dumping someone who they knew will cause irrepairable damage to them as well as people close to them.People get attracted to each other and they build rappo,build dreams,dine together,visit places together and takes what ever little hint that sai gives as a + ve indications about sai being with them,considered this as baba's blessings and goes with the relations up until they get across hurdles called parents.Parents black mail them ,torture them mentally,curses them ,says things which creates insecurity in their son's daughter mind and forces them to choose a life which may be acceptable to one but may prove disastrous to other person.I am at a point where i am in complete dilemma,distress confused state and feel like ending my life at any moment now.I get tremors with this feeling that my wife,my old parents and above all my sister will be destroyed and will be a living dreadful and life full of pain,anguishness.Please post this topic as a main topic so that parents as well as my brother and sisters who are already on relation or are going to get into a relation sooner or later understand the complexity of loving somebody,understands the hurdles that may come their way,understands and has the capability to stick to their decison come what may,understands and takes responsibilty of someone life,understands what committment is all about.I am not a perfectionalist at all,neither i am trying prove anybody wrong.I ve realised over these 2 years period that i am also a ordinary human being having lots of dreams,emotions,wanting to have my own house,wanting to marry the person who i love,n who understands me,who is ready to sacrifice materialistic things for me.What i am saying is demanding situation some times makes even a best person brutal and mad,so people who love each other or are in any relationship now should understand this that for certain behaviours there are no reasons.For inexplicable reason people act differently under different situation especially when they are under stress,when they feel insecure,so people who love each other should be very understanding of each other and should create environment conjusive and favourable for each other,make each other feeel comfortable,not use provocative stements,not pin point each others mistake.
I am writing this to help all Sai Devotees to have a blessed and blissfull life.Life filled with everlasting happiness.Life which gives a sense of mental satisfaction,life which is meaningful.Please do not fight at pity things and once you get into a relation do not doubt,have faith in sai.Don't have expectations because expectations poisons life,if you give your 100 % efforts and fully trust the other person then just pray sai that he also trusts you and gives same amount of love and care but dont expect that from the person just pray sai and surrender your relation to him.He will tell you,he will give you indications ,do not ignore them.If you expect some thing out for a person who end up getting disappointed,and disappointment is root cause of all misery.