Value the men and women in your life :
I also get mails from few very matured sai friends in their late 30s and early 40s when they already have kids. They say how cruely their husband left them, asking for divorce as he is attracted to some other women. These sai friends are really hardworking, they go for work, take care of their children and also spend their time showing devotion to sai.
See how cruel the world is. People are ready to throw away affectionate wife and children as they are blindlyy going behind new life because of lust , money and what not. I cant say few real life stories here as i keep all my sai friends conversation with me very personally but i want to help atleast 5 % of sai devotees who after reading this message will understand its a gift of gods blessings to get a good hearted wife , good hearted husband and nice peaceful family. Please do not throw away the life saibaba gave you. Its only one life we live here and we are going to pay back for every bad deed we did either in this or next life....
When i listen to stories like this, wont i feel, i must do the little i can to create awareness to shirdi saibaba devotees to "Value" a women , "Value" their children and be contented with whom sai blessed you with. Do not hurt any one. Thats why i write this article. How can i make a change in innocent sai devotees who after everything is over ask me if anything can be done. No matter at which stange someone writes to me my only reply will be "Light lamps regularly", completely surrender to sai, dont stick to your desires , try to divert your mind in good books and career etc.
Finally , let me confirm one thing i learnt about sais ways .You like to hear this or not....sai wont do much when you are supposed to face few hardships, fall in trap, suffer the worst so as to "Pay back" your past births bad karma.
Sai gave you positive hints in the starting stage of your relationships because he knows you are supposed to go through the relationship, suffer the worst and the best part about being completely devoted to sai no matter what sai does is that, suddenly someday sai will give you a incident, a vision or a dream and pull you out of pains......then remains sais gift for you in the next few months. I know for some people life cant be rewound but if you totally surrender to sais feet and show your devotion whole heartedly sai is there to keep you in his own lap as a child and bless you with a beautiful life ahead.
I know how it pains when you are in love :
The one who can serve shirdi saibaba is the one who suffered enough.Ofcourse i suffered because of my desires and foolish, childish mistakes i did but sai alone knows how much i had gone through for the past 9 years from 1999 , especially after 2004 when i faced lots of pains due to few involved in my life. Many ask how i am not interested in career and simply coming around dhuni and give photos and just lead a life as i like .The reason is i am fed up with life and what i had gone through made me feel blunt . I sometimes have unnecessary desires even now .In any case i know the pains i had gone through because of my own mistakes and the girls in my life. I had cried for days togather, hugged saibaba photo and spoke to him, cried to sai ,beat myself and even been named as phycho. For someone so soft , sensitive , i dont know how even after all these experiences, am still living with desires . Shouldn't i say " ok venkat, its better we live remembering sai alone" ...No. am not able to get to that point.
Since i know how much it pains at heart when a problem happens in love or married life, i wanted to write this . Please forgive me if i had done anything wrong.I just want to help few girls who pray sai to take proper steps right from the moment they visited starsai. Please be careful and dont hurt yourself for what is happening in your life. I wont assure anything because am as ordinary as you are but all i can assure is Shirdi saibaba will bless you with a good beautiful peaceful married life if you have patience and surrender to him completely.
Listen to mothers advice :
When you read this, am sure you will relate to how much you suffered because of the person you trusted, loved or because of your own little mistakes. Most youngsters even ignore their parents warning .Parents are not always right but mostly baba uses mothers advice to convery his message. So dont hurry to run in the cool breeze of love. After few months , you will realize the breeze has become twisters or hurricanes at which time you will face worst pains even to tell your parents that you are suffering.
Dont live falsely for outward image - live truely for your own pleasure :
"prestige" issue is the best of our indian culture. I have seen n number of families where their daughter will be suffering with her husband due to dowry or any dam problems but her parents will show their teeth and say all their relatives that their daughter is happy. Even in cities , there are such cruel heartless parents who just want to show off that their daughter is happy even if the truth is other wise.
Commitments and Decisions :
When you are in love, try to continue the relationship only if you think the guy or girl involved is really going to take care of you all life. Dont remain silent or ignore your soul mates mistakes . Some times you will love the guy or girl so much that you are forced to adjust no matter how they behave in few issues. Dont leave it and remain calm. Thats why they say love is blind. Even if you find a small uneasy conversation or behaviour , do not get angry but remain soft and discuss clearly and get assurance that it wont happen again. Most girls choose to remain calm but silence wont help much.
Its better to talk openly about weakness than spending hours on phone discussing odd stuff. Romance is part of life but it wont give you peace in the long run. The more you get a deep fear if the guy involved is not as you wish, better talk to him about your expectations, give him some time to change and surrender to sai. Don't follow men and listen to their affectionate blackmails that you had once commited. Remember , your final commitment happens on your wedding day.
Untill that moment , you are free and you have time to take any decisions irrespective of what you spoke or did before. I must also say please dont do a sin because of your own selfish reason. I know a girl who switched from one guy to another for little mistake he did. Try to take soft deicisions and best way to seek sais help while taking decisions is to read sai satcharita atleast once or few chapters and pray him whole heartedly to guide you. Ask sai to create incidents in next few days which will help you understand if the person involved is really good or not.
Be careful . Some decisions can be named as sin :
I know a girl who has agreed for marriage , marriage hall was arranged , finally she met the guy for first time, she was not convinced with his looks . so she quit the marriage. The guy was already in love with her like crazy. Now i wont say its a sin because its better the girl told she dont want to live with the guy she doesnt like . At the same time, it adds up to her bad karma. someday, she might have to face similar situation. When you are in love with a guy or a girl, if you have given commitments try to act carefully. Make sure all gains equally . If you feel your breakup is going to bring good life to the person involved, its not a sin but in any case,its better to surrender to sai and ask his advice. Baba will only give you someone who will match your attitudes of every aspect in life.Its your responsibility to wait untill baba gives and dont test sais powers by asking him why he let you suffer.
Shirdi saibaba will surely bless you with good soul mate :
Sai is a saint who supported in shiva-sakthi concept and he always blessed his true devotees with good life partner. Sai is like Lord venkateshwara who showers his devotees with materialistic benefits and there by increase their faith and bring them to spiritual path. sai knows atleast if he fulfills their desires, people will lead a good spiritual life. So even for spiritually inclined people, sai has a plan of good married life.
Why are you suffering for a long time :
In some peoples life, it takes long time for sai to really bring peace. " washing away the karma " is one of the main aspects of shirdi sais ways which is why few sai devotees suffer for years togather though they love sai as a part of their family. Lets say baba has a prasad ( gift ) for you. Your hands are dirty . What will happen if he gives you the prasad. You will eat the prasad along with dirt which might be harmful for your health.
Here the "Dirt" is the bad karma of your previous birth, this birth or that of your ancestors. You have to go through sufferings even in relationships and only then can sai bless you with the real good prasad.
Thats why i always ask people who are about to take love or marriage decisions to take time , have patience and decide. May be baba has someone else in store for you...May be baba has shown you that someone else whom you ignored based on their status or looks or what ever but sai knows who is true and who really loves you.
Misunderstanding, ego, status, family problems and more :
I know how misunderstanding and problems in love or married life will hurt your heart. I have gone through it myself .so i feel this article is the little i can do to console and heal the pains in your heart. Words have power to heal and i hope these words brings light in your eyes and makes your heart feel "light".
My mistakes and ever forgiving sai :
Honestly, as of now, am not pure and really wonder if i deserve to call myself as servant of sai. I listen to music, make fun with good friends and the best part ...yes. i do get attracted to girls ( not all of them .If i find a girl who seems to be very good at heart and loves sai as much as i do, i am not able to ignore her ). so am just a normal guy who loves sai , loves to work for him ,sai himself has assigned few works for me ...even then i am not perfect. Today morning i got a dream of Lord Ganesha and Lord Murugan. I have a habit of hugging sai satcharita book while i sleep. As soon a i woke up i opened sai satcharita and read the following "
Baba's Humility
Lord or Bhagwan is said to have six qualities, viz. (1) Fame, (2) Wealth, (3) Non-attachment, (4) Knowledge, (5) Grandeur, and (6) Generosity. Baba had all these in Him. He incarnated in flesh for the sake of the Bhaktas. Wonderful was His grace and kindness! He drew the devotees to Him, or how else one could have known Him!
Though Baba seemed outwardly to enjoy sense-objects, he had not the least flavour in them, nor even the consciousness of enjoying them. Though He ate, he had no taste and though He saw, He never felt any interest in what He saw. Regarding passion, He was as perfect a celibate as Hanuman. He was not attached to anything. He was pure consciousness, the resting place of desire, anger, and other feelings. In short, He was disinterested, free and perfect.
The words to remember here is "though He saw, He never felt any interest in what He saw "
Baba never discouraged his devotees from enjoying beauty. He only wants us not to give space to any evil thoughts. sometimes falling in love with someone without thinking deeply if our life will be good with that person is also a evil thought because i have seen men and women get attracted, love each other so much, there wont be a day they dont speak on phone, they get married and finally they realize they cant live togather any longer. I know girls who pray sai with worst pains in their heart. some girls get pressure both from parents and lover/ husband or his family. In the mean while , they keep on praying sai, doing pooja, lighting lamps and reading sai satcharita. The only mistake they would have done is deciding too fastly in choosing the right guy.
How mind works when you are in love :
When you are in love, you are happily thinking, day dreaming, roaming around, commicating, missing and doing other stuff for your studies or career but sai loves you so much that he wants you to realize if the person you love is really going to keep happily or not.
Sai once says to a devotee" I look at him every minute even when he doesnt remember me.... I have been watching him for 700 years " ....such is sais love. Even when we as child think that we are happy at present sai as our affectionate mother takes responsibilty to show us whats good for us and whats not. So sai himself creates few incidents to help you understand if the person you love is really honest and if he will keep you happily all life.
But when you are in love, its hard to even look back and think hard no matter how much sai helps you. Thats why i have launched starsai.net , especially to help young shirdi saibabas devotees to be alert , be whole heartedly devoted to sai and seek his guidance.
My prayers to shirdi saibaba to bring you peace and harmony in your love and married life :
After you read this article take few points which you think will suit your life. I have wrote this generally to help you but personally each one of you will have different problem.I sincerely pray our guru shirdi saibaba to bless you with peace and happiness in your life.
I like to know real life incidents , experiences and leela of how shirdi saibaba helped his devotees in their love life and married life.Please write to me if you like to share. Sometimes i get mails from sai devotees who become my sai friends. These people are mostly the one who are suffering in life.
If you think you must share your pains or problem with me , please feel free to mail me at
jaistarsai@yahoo.com and
starsai27@gmail.com . I will reply when i have time. Remember, i am as ordinary as you. so all you can expect is a friendly reply as a brother. I have listed few ways i used to help children of sai in pain....Please follow them and feel free to write to me
C.Venkat Raman
7 : 09 : 2007
( my attitudes and way i understood sai could change after this date due to more experiences . Please forgive me if i had done any mistakes in this article. As i said earliar, am after all a ordinary little servant of shirdi saibaba )
My tomb shall bless and speak to the needs of my devotees - shirdi saibaba
Please try to do the following to gain shirdi saibabas blessing.
1. Light lamps / candles in a tray under babas feet regularly. ( Mostly indian women in western countries write me about their problems and when i ask them to light lamp they say house is made of wood stuff like that..so i made it a point to say , get a big huge tray, then light candles / diya on it...the more lamps you light the better your life will be. You can use either ghee or oil. One request, when nothing seems to happen, dont say sai that you lit lamps but he dint helped you...what ever you do to God must be done as a way to express your love on sai. Materialistic benefits must not always be in mind while showing our devotion on sai.
2.My goal is to bring you strongly in sais path.
Never think he has let you down. Never think he has thrown you away and never regret for what has happened. Surrender to sai completely.
Remember the following ways to get blessings of sai :
3.The pains in your heart wont go if you stick to your desires. Try to divert your mind by listening to spiritual baba songs, try to go to temple, close your eyes and remember sai sai and sai alone or think any of your favourite gods. Try reading good books or better to do some pilgrimage. Try to learn about other people who are suffering. When you help others , am sure sai will start to work on your problem and he himself will bless you with a satisfying solution
4.Recite a mantra or read sai satcharita atleast one chapter a day. Dont read sai satcharita with expectations in mind. Just read to show your interest in learning about sais ways .
5. Dont always expect baba to give hints and dont take everything as hints. Baba doesnt expect anything from you. All he needs is pure devotion .
6. Pray sai to guide you in dream but dont worry if dream doesnt come. I used to hug sai satcharita and sleep and pray baba to help me in dream but these are for stupid , childish and extremely ,deeply foolishly living people who mix their life and sai like river mixes with ocean. One warning is, dont trust little hints baba gives you as positive signs of what you do is right. Even i trusted like this and finally got nicely hurted. surrendering to sai actually means trusting him totally no matter what happens.
7.Light a lamp and gaze it for minutes togather repeating "aum sri sai ram" ..or any of your favourite mantra.
These things are not rules. These are little ways i can show you as a brother to help you out. Mail me if you still need help . i shall reply if i have time or you just remember one thing. Be calm and remember sai sai sai alone. sai will surely do a leela in your life if you show pure affection on him.
Venkat
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Aum sri sai ram
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