PLEASE HELP

[Hope_*_2012]

Please help me sai baba. My wife of 6 months has told me she does not love me and left me. (we have known each other for a year and a half).

I am distraught!! i keep crying all day long and she has moved on it seems after 10 days! its horrible.

I was trying to do everything I could to make things work as it is my second marriage.

My first marriage ended horribly so i was very careful not to make the same mistakes.

It was sai baba who helped me through the pain of my first marriage. Why am I being punished again? what have I done?? I am heart broken.

I am totally broken! she wont speak to me or answer my calls SHE HATES ME.

All I have done is take her physical and mental abuse as she was always insecure even before we got married. She never liked me going anywhere and I was a prisoner in my own home.

A few people warned me about her behaviour and told me to delay the wedding but I never listened. I was lonely and I just thought she was the way she was (posessive and clingy) because she loved me. Part of me feels I only have myself to blame.

After a few weeks of marriage I noticed the posessive behaviour kicking in again. She would get angry over the slightest thing and blamed me for making her feel isnecure due to the fact I had many women who liked me and found me attactive when we first met. I changed my phone number and cut myself off from everyone in my past. Including my frineds and I did not go and see them either as it made her feel insecure.  She would get angry about the slightest of things and hit me or ignore me for days on end. Then I would spend 4 or 5 days trying to make things better between us and then we woudl have a good few days until I said or did something else that upset her. Then the cycle would start all over again.  I felt isolated and alone so I contacted my friend of 9 years who I had stopped speaking to because she didnt like it.

She found emails between me and him on my phone and said i went behind her back and I was not to be trusted because i  betrayed her by . She said I was gay because I promised him he would be my priority. Then she left me for the first time in JULY. She came back after a week but things have not been right since. All she does is accuse me of lying which I do not!

I am heartbroken. I moved out with her when we got married and now im all alone on my own. I have never lived alone before.

Despite everythingn I still miss her and keep asking myself what I did wrong. Please help me sai baba. Did I not understand her?

We have a family meeting tomorrow and I beg you please sai baba can you help us. I know when I go there with my family her family will say it's over...I miss her and want to save the marriage and just want her to be a normal person. I pray taht you dont end it for us sai baba. Please give her knowledge and me if I am in the wrong to help each other. I dont want my second marriaged to end either! Please help sai bab I beg u.

[Kirti1]

OM SAI RAM

Dear Hope,

Your depression and desperation, stems from only 1 reason, fear of failure in marriage.

After reading your trails and trauma, it is not your love for her that wants her back.
But you are scared of facing failure in marriage, all over again, that is causing all the anxiety, depression.
The way she has treated you any self-respecting individual will want what you already have- separation.

And yet you are trying to reconcile with her. It is not love, it is desperation, and stupidity.

Now that she knows you are dependent on her, and vulnerable, and needy, she will make sure all her demands are fulfilled/met before she thinks of moving in. That too under family pressure.

Open your eyes, awaken your self-respect and ego.
See what Baba is trying to show you. He is showing you your future with her.
Accept Baba's decision and go along with it, then you will see what Baba really wants to give you.
Trust in HIM and give your life in his hands. He will do that what is right for you.

What's the point in being with some one when they don't want to be with you??

Baba bless.

[vibhusharma]

Plz show the right path to ur children mere baba.

Om Sai Ram!!!

[Kirti1]

OM SAI RAM

Dear Vibhusharmaji,

Thank you

[vibhusharma]

Om Sai Ram!!!