help me to get back my love

[anushka]

Hello Vidushi,
I was in similiar situation like yours 4 yrs back.I  liked a  guy ,our families knew about it and were ok with it.Then he went to hydrabad and things started turning out same as yours.He said he is busy in making career,started avoiding me and gradually i started loosing my patience. It was worst phase of my life.I understand how it feels desperately waiting for someone and when the other one is not responding.I called him,mailed him,apologise for everything if i had done anything,but of no use
then i got married ,just to divert my mind otherwise i was in the verge of moving to depression.I stopped believing in god.
After marriage i was once going thru orkut site and i found him flirting him with other girls.Now its been 4 years,he has made a very successful carrear,travels around the globe,but believe me i thank every day that i did not marry him,.I am thankful to god to make me pass through lots of frustration  and tension so i went away from that guy. I have best in-laws,good husband.
So, if he is not made for u,he will not get u.God definately has better plans for u vidushi.
Let him know that your love for him  is true,but still he doesnt come back.Accept it,he is not meant for u

One last advise i want to give u , in any case dont loose your dignity and grace. I still feel sorry that i behaved very badly with my mom and dad,coz they wanted me to forget him.i feel guilty i literally pleaded him to marry me.Those memories still make me feel ashamed of myself.
So , i pray god that u take the right decision and keep ur head high in all circumstances
Take care

[vidushi mittal]

anushka ji..iska mtlb to yahi hua ke hum logo ko pyar krna hi nahi chayen...jb at d end humme alag hona hi hai...to god milata hi kyu hai....? kya god ko maza atta hai humari feelings ke sath khelne mei..???kyu kr rae ho sai baba aisa...apne usse sare rites kyu de dye..
hum nahi jee payenge sai nath.. aaj bhi hum yahi umeed kga kr bethe hai ke aap sb sahi kr doge humare beech mei...plz sai nath....mt todo humari umeed...
kyu kraya humse itta pyar??

[vidushi mittal]

sai nath...kya paisa ,, career..yahi sb kuch hai aj..??btao... usne kaha ke usse career bnana hai to apne sunli uski...humare bare mei ni socha apne??hai na sai nath....

[saib]

Vidushi,

Tumne do sawal kiye hai Sai se.

1.jb at d end humme alag hona hi hai...to god milata hi kyu hai....
Yeh tumne kisse kah diya ki sai kisi ko milate hai aur fir juda kar dete hai. Dear aisa to kabhi nahi hota siway agar iskey pichhe koi bada dharmik maqsad na ho to. Hum khud hi kisi ko bhi milte hai, who accha lagta hai, man me bade bade sapne paida karte hai aur kho jate hi un sapno ki duniya mai.

Sai ya Bhagwan to sab insano ko bahut pyar karte hai to who kyon chahenge ki koi insane yuh ni man ke bandhan me pad kar din raat tadapta rahe, kabhi nahi, who to yahi chahenge ki har insane apne insane hone ke arth ko pachnae aur mukti ke marg ki aur agarsar ho.

Par ha jab who dekhte hai, ki unka koi accha bhakat ya insane kisi galat insane ke bandan me padne ja raha hai to who use apne tarike se samjhane ki koshish jaroor karte hai.

Tume net par hi kai case mil jayenge ki kis tarah kai logo ne sai ki baat ko na samajhte hue man marji ki aur fir bad me akar sai ko hi bolte hai, ki agar apko malom tha yeh insane aisa niklega to kyon hamara rishta hone diya. Ajab Duniya hai, Sai Sai karte hai, Par Sai par vishwas karne ko koi tyar hi nahi.

2.usne kaha ke usse career bnana hai to apne sunli uski...humare bare mei ni socha apne??hai na sai nath....
Chalo maan liya jisko tum chahti ho, yo ek nek dil insane hai, tumare emotions se khelne wala koi fraud nahi sachmuch ek trust worthy acche dil ka insane hai aur who bhi tume itna hi pyar karta hai jitna tum usse. Par fir tum kyon itni selfish ho rahi ho. Kya uske mata pita ka sapna nahi hoga ki unka baccha jindgi me unche sthan par paunche, kya uske apne sapne nahi hai ki who bade position me paunche aur apne sab parivar ko sukh de. I understand, ki man ko samjhana itna asan nahi hai, par kya itna patience nahi hai, aisa tabhi hota hai jab man insecure ho, ki kahin who unchi position par pahunch gaya to hame bhool to nahi jayega, fir to use hamse bhi jaida smart or position wali ladki mil jayegi etc etc. yeh to pyar nahi hai, jahan vishwas nahi wahan pyar kaisa.

Sai hamesha kahte hai jindgi me chahe kuch bhi karo par apni self respect mat khona. anushka thik kahti hai agar who tumari destiny me hai to jaroor milega, agar mahi to to hoga acche ke liye hi hoga.

Tume lagta hoga ki in logo ko kya pata aise hi likh dete hai, par vidushi jis halat se tum gujar rahi ho usse kai guna bhayanak halat se kai log gujre hai, isliye apne experience se hi tume samjhana chahte hai. Sacche man se Sai ki aradhna karo, Sai ke sath business mat karo, Jab Sai denge to itni khushiyan ki sambhalna mushkil ho jayega, un par vishwas to karo……………….aur han sai par vishwas karne se pahle apne aap par vishwas karna sikho. Jindgi tumari hai choice tumari hai, jindgi ko seriously lo, age bado, kuch bano, ki agar who tumari jindgi me aye to fakar mahsoos kare, aur agar nahi to is baat ka afsoos ki usne kise pane ka sunhara avsar kho diya.

May Sai Bless You!

om sri sai ram!

[vidushi mittal]

thanku saib ji...
om sai ram om sai ram om sai ram om sai ram

smjhane ke lye thanku so much...i knw aap bohot baar humme samjha chuke hai bt hum haar baar sai se yahi sawal krte rehte hai....i dont knw y????i am sorry 4 dis..

[vidushi mittal]

shayad humare liye iss cheez except krna next to impossible hai ke wo ab meri life ka part nahi hai...u knw y....coz wo mujhse hamesha yahi kehta tha ke chahe koi aur ho na ho vidu...mai tere sath hamesha rahunga...shayad ye baat humare mann se nikal hi nahi rahi hai..isilye hum sai nath se aise sawal kr bethte hai... i am sorry sai baba....

[saib]

Dear Vidushi,

You need not to say or feel sorry, belief of sub conscious mind to change is not a easy task even for learned persons or yogis, then to expect from normal persons is really over expectation. But believe me Time heals all wounds. We are just river, if keep on flowing life seems blissful, but when stop it becomes so painful, so just learn to move on. Be strong, It is your life and if you want to be happy, you can be happy. Don’t put condition in your life that I’ll be happy only if he will come in my life. Conditional happiness never let life live in harmony. As I said to someone, Law of attraction always work in our life and creates wonders (It is my own experience too), If you are a person of negative emotions, living a painful life, you will always attract negative people, negative things in life, and soon start feeling own life a burden. But, if you live a happy life, never afraid of any problem of life, if comes takes them as a examination and do your best to pass those tests, you will start attracting happiness in all areas of life. Nothing will lack in any area of life. Sai will reward with a complete life.

Also I never say to struggle with your thoughts, The more you will try to forget him, Mind will produce more flashes in memory, So Just take this as ordinary event, leaving everything on Sai, If you can dare to surrender completely in the holy feet of Sai, It won’t take long to have a great life. All pains will get converted into pleasures.

Again at last, Life is yours, choice is yours, If you choose to keep on crying, will not make any difference in any one’s life except yours. But if you choose to move ahead in life, You will have a wonderful life also put impact on life of others being an inspiration. Dear, Live a large life. There are lots of things You can do in life, We all have been sent in this world for a limited period, One day all have to depart, Just enjoy that time, Even if you would get something after crying for many years, would it be worth of so many years pain. So, what you decide. Live as being victim of your destiny or a confident person facing the life cheerfully!

May Sai Bless You!

om sri sai ram!

[vidushi mittal]

thanku saib ji... i wish jo aap keh rae hai waisa hi ho.....sb achcha hi ho...
jo aap keh rae hai wo bhi sahi hai ke hum logo ko agge badna chayen life mei....ek hi point pe ruka nahi ja skta kisi ke lye....bt kya kisi ko bhulna asan hota hai..?? humne ek insaan ke sath itne sapne dekhe hai n ab unn sbko bhul kr agge bad jayen....iss tarah to koi b pyar nahi krega...

i hve faith in u sai nath....coz agar aap humse itna pyar kra skte hai to aap jarur humme humari khushiyan b doge...

[saib]

But Vidushi, Why you are trying to forget him. Let him be there in memories only without putting an impact on life. The image will start getting faded with time itself if not appears as part of life in future. In our Education, Many people could not succeed in their career, you know why, First they took admission in wrong course, after two years if they realize still they don’t dare to quit, because they always thought about two years they have spent in wrong course instead of years they have to live in future. And just for the sake of those two years they spend their whole life of future in miseries, lack of enthusiasm. They just spoil their future for a wrong decision of past.  Because they could not decide what they want two years already spent or wasted or 60 years of future they have to spend.

You asked again and again, kya hame Pyar Karna nahi Chahiye, it all depends whom you love. There is a very basic principle of love, Love who Loves you (For specific relation, otherwisse love all) But most difficult to follow, because We always wish others to love us whereas he/she wants others to love him/her. A complicated matrix. and it happens only with those people who are emotionally weak, who always depends on others for their happiness like parents, friends, mercy of their colleagues etc. and they always find difficult to be happy and live a life full of complaints and self pity. They recover only with time. On the other side who love only God, they always remains happy because they raise above material temporary love.

Sai apne bhakto ko sada khushiyan banthe hai, par bhakat ke liye khushi ka kya matlab hota hai, 9 vardan jo sai ne diye, yah 1 chiz jo nahi di who bhi bhakat ke bhale ke liye??

Aur sapno ki baat, to yeh jeevan hi apne me ek sapna hai, ankh koli to paya bahut sare rishto me aur bhool jate hai woh rishta jo parmanent hai, Sai ke sath, kho jate hai in sapno ki duniya me, Fir ek din ankhe sada ke liye band ho jati hai aur sab rishte nate wahin rah jate hai aur rah jata hai fir se ek hi rishta sai ke sath.

Jindgi bhi isi tarah ka ek natak hai, Film me log alag alag role karte hai, Hero film me heroin se bahut pyar karta hai, par sada yaad rakhta hai, yeh usski asli jindgi nahi, asli wife to ghar par intzar kar rahi hai. isi tarah hum bhi jindgi ke maya jaal me aisa ulajhte hai, ki baki sab bhool jate hai.

anyway, Ho sakta hai aaj tume yeh sab samajh na aye, par kuch Dino, mahino ya years ke baad sab kuch samay ke sath samajh aa jayega. Main Tumse bhi kai guna bure daur se nikla huan, isliye janta huan Jab samay ka chakr ghoomta hai, to jindgi kaise badalti hai.

Finally leaving all in hands of Sai!

May Sai Bless You!

om sri sai ram!

[jubs]

can u telme me ki wher i can get guru charitra in hindi version on net..............i hav the english version only....plz help me to find out the hindi one ...........om sai ram

[upasana]

i m n d same condition vidhushi... i cant know  d truth also..what he wants..What he s doing...n Why..what r d questions in yr mind i hav also...But never let ur selfrespect down 4 anybody..i dont say u forget him bcoz i know its not possible..but dont do any unfair with urself..if he is in ur destiny,no one can stop him...otherwise only wish 4 his hapines...i promised to my beloved dat when i realized i creat problem ,i ll be out of ur life...he promised me d same...i think dis s d perfect time to judge how much he loves me n i love him...Love s unconditional,so if he s hapy,den i m also..i know its not easy 4 any girl to forget his true love...but dear we should not beg our love from others..only bow down ur heads in front of sai...do u know when we tightly hold ur hand, everything left out of our hand....i wiil advise u as i m n d sam situation dont call him,make him realise how much u r precious 4 him...if he cant realize ,let him go... i can realize its not so easy  but  u r not a begger. i wiill pray 4 u...Kip trust on sai ...You r one of d lucky girl in d world bcoz u r d daughter of Sainth....o.k. dont wory....OMSAIRAm

[vidushi mittal]

om sai ram om sai ram om sai ram om sai ram

thanku upasana ji n saib ji..

itz nt easy for me....mai haar baar sochti hu ke mai usse bhul jau ya na sochun uske bare mei, jb usse meri parwah hi nahi hai to mai bhi kyu kru?? bt i dont knw y mujhse nahi ho rha hai...
sai nath...plz humme apne pass hi bula lo..aisi adhi zindagi nahi jeena chahte hum... hum uske bina nahi reh payenge sai nath....plzzz baba...

bohot darr lg rha hai ab...apko pta hai na kl mera exam hai n tb bhi mai bs yahi soch rhihu ke wo aa jayen wapas...sai baba...plz ab khatam kr do humara intezar..hum bohot kamjor pad chuke hai,.plz usse itna patthar mt bnao sai plz sai..

[sailajamr]

Hi Vidushi Ji,

I can understand what you are going thru. It isnt easy to forget  a person who you loved for 3 and half years and lead a happy life.
But remember one thing..You should be strong...Compare the 3 1/2 years (number) with the number of years that are left for you and the years that lu ived without him before...Now that number would be very small compared to what you have left with.
Be strong, dont make him feel that you are still after him..If you try being strong and dont go to him...he might  miss you at that time...Meanwhile try not to think of him and preoccupy urself with some work that interests you..if he comes then decide..
Just remember one thing...SaiBaba should have thought he is not the right person for his daughter..thats why this might have happened..He sure might have good one for you..

None of the curcumstances are bad enough to take your own life....Keep smiling always and be strong, go out with your friends...have some quality life..take up a job or something even if its a small one..Dont think about the society that speaks bad about you...You dont need them...When you are successful nough with will power and strong personality, every one would come after you..

Just think that Saibaba is making me write this for you..He wants u to be happy and wants you to trust him...He would definetly do good for you..

Jai Sairam

OM SAI SRI SAI JAI JAI SAI
OM SAI SRI SAI JAI JAI SAI
OM SAI SRI SAI JAI JAI SAI

[upasana]

kip faith on sai dear......

[vidushi mittal]

om sai ram