I need your blessings Sai baba

[snitu13]

Yes Akash, both of us are in Bangalore and working in good places. For me my personal life is most important. I can give up my job or anything because it does not matter to me, as much as he matters to me.

My family can talk to his family, he should also agree first or atleast say that he does not want to get into current relation selected by his family. Even I can go and talk to his family and prove that even if I am not from their comminity, I am also a good person, I can also take care of family and I know and understand the importance of family. How can I contact them? Dont know their numbers, even if I knew numbers, also until I know that even wants to get out of this, how can I talk to his family?

I am so confused. I can't think of anything right now. I cant just think of anything else, than to see him again.. Please Sai, do something or make us do something good on time.. Please show us the right way, Sai Baba. All I know is my intentions are good and I have love in my heart.

|| Om Sai Nathaye Namah ||

[Akash100]

Can u do the same wat i said to u.. talk to ur lover 1st and then decide anything..dont think he'll be hurt.. go ahead plz.. atleast take chance.. u hav tried from all the way.. try this also..

and never ever give up ur job.dont do this type of mistake.plz...if u miss anything, u ll miss everything..

Nitu u r thinking too much.. i dont thinnk so it ll work. if u talk personlly to his parents..

Nitu do u hav access skype.?everything cannot say in this forum.its upto u.. if u want then only..

Om Sai Ram

[snitu13]

Akash, I don't have access to skype in office.. I feel you are rite that I have come this far, I should think about trying to talk to him again.. I fear, I am scared that he have answers ready for everything..  anyways I will still try talking to him when I get a chance to meet him again.. don't want to do this over phone.. i hope sai baba guides me again..

@Gunj: As suggested by you, if I ask him whether he woud be happy in future? he says, there will not be any difference in any girl his parents would see, so why waste time.. why not just agree to next one who comes along.. ALso, his parents had given him ultimatum and all emotional pressure that if he loves them then say yes, thats why he said yes even without thinking anything... his father again says, he would die if he says no.. can anyone do something? At times, I feel so bad, that he is stuck like this.. Why can't his parents see that he is forced to say yes.. ? I hope Sai baba helps them to see this and helps him too..

The thing that he was quiet at most of my questions, leads me to think this - either he knows that, what I am saying is right and he just dont have the strength right now to face it.. he does not want to face his true feelings himself and so, just don't want any such question to be raised in his mind and heart.. he is scared of results and fears, what if, he does not want all this, what would he do? most importantly, how will this effect his parents..
secondly, all I am saying or thinking is wrong and my heart is giving me wrong signals that, he is pretending to be happy?? I don't think so..

baba, please help me know, please bless us with hope, love and faith.. please bless us to be together,
|| Om Sai Nathaye Namah ||

[Akash100]

Ok Nitu, good luck..meet him and talk.

Om Sai Ram

[rr_sai_bhakt]

Dear nitu ji,

One of the biggest mistakes one can make in a relationship is "assumption" ..

Dont assume what he is thinking or not ..

Please ask him straight away ... do you want to spend the rest of your life with a decision made on assumptions?
And with questions like "What if..." always coming into your mind?

No, right ... and definitely, it isnt the correct way to do it also ...

Why are you assuming what he thinks about his parents or their happiness or what ever?

Please ask him openly and clearly ...

Also ask him this - hopefully he is not exaggerating the fear that his parents will not like you as his life partner. Hopefully he is not "assuming" that his parents will take it very hard if he rejects the proposal they have chosen for him.
Maybe he is also just assuming things ... maybe it might not be so difficult at all ...
Let him at least once tell about you at his home .... then see their reaction ... Why is he already assuming things?

Please go ahead and take some concrete actions ... rather than just assumptions ...
I can see that you really want this to happen .... so please take the lead on this ...

Om Shri Sai Samarth ...

[GaneshHariharan]

Sorry , but couldnt help posting here  "when u ASSUME you make an ASS of U and ME " Om Sairam.

[snitu13]

hi Akash, rr_sai_bhakt, all..

thank u all for your help and support. I had thought that I would meet him and speak to him. but he happened to call and I said everything on phone. It was like now or never. I thought what if I never got a chance.
Turns out I was wrong..
We talked for long time.. He said, he had taken this decision by thinking and not hastily. He probably does not think about me that way. He had never hidden anything, his motives or anything from me.. i agree..
May be I was a fool just blind in love.. I was just using my heart and not my mind..
Still I don't have any regrets, because I know i had loved from bottom of my heart.. I just did what my heart asked me to.. I still want to see him happy, but I am not strong enough to see him happy with someone else.. I wish I never see him with anyone else in my entire life.. Please baba, if possible, give me this..
Om Sai Ram..

Thanks to all. I really appreciate this support.

[Akash100]

Hello Nitu,

Very sad..Nitu that person does not love you. If he loves u, he does not leave u like this..
He  is not trying at all to get u. if he tries a little also, u both can live a happy life.
U are trying ur best n wat else u can do.. u hav loved him truly..
But Still I’m ready to help u.
Mere dost ke sath kuch aisa hi case tha but vo dono ready the sadi ke liye, only their family were against. Unhone 6month tak apne family walo ko samjaya. Vo lo maan bi gaye.. now they are living very happy life and now they are very happy.. and both re working in good company..aur unke family wale bi bahut khus hai..
But tumhare case me ladka hi nahi ready hai..

Nitu, I don’t want to say u like he does not love u. he does not think about u and he does not want to make u his life partner.. if I say u these all. It’ll hurt u badly..
Nitu, Can u tell me when he is going to get married?

Have faith in Baba. Vo tumhe koyi rasta jarur dikhayenge.

[snitu13]

Akash, Thanks for your support.
I don't know when he is getting married, neither I would ever want to know.. Anyways how does that matter? Can you do anything? no, right..
I just trying to find out the reason, why did I come back here.. why was I such an emotional fool in love? if love is this, i don't ever wana love again..

I know I loved him truly, but I don't want to hurt myself anymore..
I hope Baba shows me some way..

Om Sai Ram

[Akash100]

Nitu u r very true.and just be true. Nothing has gone wrong. And one more thing nothing is impossible.Agar mere hath me kuch hota to me aap ki jarur help karta.

But I can understand the pain in love. Batana muskil hota hai. Kabhi kabhi me bi sochta hu pyar hota hi nahi hai ya fir pyar ka matlab hi nahi jante hai log..

Nothing has gone wrong Nitu, just remember whatever is happening, happens for good only..this is my personal experience.. Sahi bole to pyar to shadi ke baad  hota hai.. before marriage these all are just attraction and we fall in love..

 Nitu, trust Baba u’ll get a better one jo tumhe har khusiya dega.har pyar dega.
And if u still want him, tell us.. we ll help u.. and if possible ll hav meeting with him also..
Do u think, does he love u?? kya tumhe lagta hai ki problem kewal usake ghar wale ki taraf se hai and he wants to accept u.. ya fir he does not want to accept u.. Nitu I tel u onething u r not clear wats going on. Whether he is right or wrong..try to figure it out.and follow wat is right.. this is not the end of the life Nitu..

[snitu13]

i dont know akash.. what is right or wrong .. i don't want to think about this anymore..
both of us said many many things on phone yesterday..  everything cannot be written..

he kept saying i am worried about u.. i said, if you do not feel the way I do, it should not matter to you,
he said, i like you, but probably not with same intensity as you.. if he did, he would not have cared for family..
i also said, in all these years, i always had some small hope that probably one day something good will happen.. etc etc.. and now i think probably you are scared..
he said, may be he is scared.. he said, lets assume we both get married, and tomorow his parents and both of us are not happy with this marriage, what will happen? we will be hurt.. that we had spent such a good time together and now we are not happy? I said, how can u be sure that this will not happen with the one your family has chosen? how can u gurantee that all will be happy with this in future?.. He said, its possible that he is not happy with her, but atleast it will not hurt him because he would not have expected anything from this new person.. Then i said, at that time, woudn't u feel bad that 'what if nitu and me were together?' wouldn't that make u feel bad that atleast we should have tried and given us a chance.. He again said, may be I will repent later..

It may not be of any use telling all this here.. he is right that he had never hidden anything from me.. i was the one who was making a dreamland..
i loved him truly with all my heart and it hurts enough to even hear that  he does not feel the same way.. god knows i never wanted to force my feelings on him.. i know love cannot be forced.. its not his fault that i loved him..

God, please help me forgive and forget atleast.... i dont want to have any bad feelings about him or the time we spent together.. show us the right way..
Please give all, the hopes and dreams which can be fulfilled.. and not the other way.. it hurts..
Om Sai Ram..

[gunj]

Dear nituji

om sai ram

sad to know that the boy was nt in love with u .it was a one sided love from ur side.i can tell u y all this happen y baba bring u back to bangalore.only because baba want to learn u a lesson from this dat never assume or be so blind in love.
aisa nahi hai ki apko dubara pyar nahi hoga samajh sakti aabhi apki condition.i was gone thru same condition but what i got a person who really loves me.whn i got brk i though same as u r thinking rite now dat i will nvr ever gng to love some one.its not like dat agar sai ne ye sab karwaya hai jarur iske piche acha chupa hoga,sai ne apke liye kuch acha soch k rakha hai jo time ayega toh apko mil jayega .sai pe shraddha rakhe aur saburi sake .sai sab ka bhala karege.


om sai ram

[snitu13]

Thanks for your support Gunj.
Om Sai Ram

[Akash100]

After hearing these all from u, even I’m feeling very sad.
Try to forget everything.. let him do whatever he is doing. Ignore him, try not to give him call from now on. As u hav said, it is clear he does not want to accept u and does not hav any feelings for u.He is just showing off. His family is most important for him. then why he dint think about this before??? He does not know life is all about balance. If he ever truly loved u, he never leaves u like this. He does try everything for u and his family..

Don’t think about this matter very much. Leave it for sometime..who knows he’ll come back to u.

Nitu take care of urself. Believe in urself.keep urself busy..don’t listen emotional songs and all..make urself strong.. mingle with ur friends.have more and more fun. Play with kids.give them more love. these all ll make u happy. Forget about him..”Never be sad for missing whatever you expected but, be happy for that…because, GOD has planned to give another one, better than you expected..

Nitu, have a firm faith in universal law.. all can be fake and wrong but universal law cannot be..

As u hav said, u r working in good company. think about ur future.Love whom who loves u, cares u. U hav very bright future Nitu..Aap log jaise ki jarurat hai es duniya me.

Don’t panic,don’t loose hopes.u deserve everything best.and Baba has planned u the best one.I’m sure ur life ll be full of happiness.
Always think good do good. Read good books. Life is very beautiful Nitu. Don’t spoil it for anyone.. be proud of u, only the best deserves u.

Jai Sai Ram

[gunj]

Dear nituji

i think usne aapko sirf ek bahot acha dost samjha hai par jaisi feeeling apko thi usko nahi thi,hota hai aisa ki kahi baar hum galat sochne lagate hai ek person k feeling ko leke par wo kuch aur nikalti hai yehi apke saath hua,agar aapne bahot pehle hi usse staright forward baat ki hoti toh aaj apko itna dukh nahi hot,jaisa akansh ne kaha hai dnt think about him,dnt kip ne feeling not love n nt evn hatered coz if we have ne of this feeling for a person we cant forget  him.jst have more talks with frind,u can chat with frnds,change ur routine,go for shopping change evythng whch make u remind of him.play with kids,have fun with friends,sai ka dyaan karo,sab thik hojayega ,time is a good medicine for a wound to heal.
om sai ram