My love n marriage...which one to choose

[piju]

quote:Originally posted by Swetha Suresh

Dear Prajna

i know what you are undergoing mentally...not that i have faced something of that sort but i know what suspicions can lead to......

i am at a stage in life when Baba is my sole hope there are times when i tell him that he is done nothing good to me so i will not pray to him at all but i also understand one thing that he is the only one who can do good to everyone ....i sometimes talk to him and fell very releived ....

Practice reading Sai Charitra..... try doing nine thrusdays Vrat ...i have started getting very good results i know you too will get it ...my faith and trust on baba has gone up very high ..... try talking to your husband as if you are talking to a kid for that matter your own kid try to go in to his way and if still things dont work out...both of you  to start a fresh start ...i know baba will never leave you beacuse all our hearts are his dwarkamai......

dont dishearten yourself..remember one thing...Sai is our mother ..no mother will want to give her child Poison ...sai will have all goods assured for you ... as long a s you truely believe in him and surrender to him fully you cannot reap his fruits of wisdom and peace ...

Leave it to him he will do you all good

Swetha

[piju]

Thanks for this story and the details on the VRat. I was in any case wanting to know how to keep thi svrat and what all to do on that day. I am sure your message will help me a great deal.
Thanks

quote:Originally posted by Swetha Suresh

saw this Pooja interesting. You will reap the rewards in no time, when you do this Vrath. May sai bless you with all his grace to do this vrat properly and answer your prayers :

Story behind the sai vrat pooja :

Kokilaben and her husband Maheshbhai used to live in a big city and they had lots of love for each other. But Maheshbhai’s nature was very annoying and he had no sense of talking. Neighbors were also very much frustrated by his this kind of nature. Kokilaben had lots of faith in GOD and she was very religious.

She was tolerating all her problems silently having lots of faith in GOD that GOD will make everything all right one day. But because of Maheshbhai’s nature, their business went down gradually and there was not enough income. He started staying at home all day and his nature become worst.
It was an afternoon. One old saint came to Kokilaben’s door. There was enormous light on his face. And he asked for rice and dal (lentils). Kokilaben gave him rice and dal and she folded her both hands and said “namste” (greetings).

Saint replied “SAI will always keep you happy.” Kokilaben said “There is no happiness in my life” and she told all her problems to the saint.
After listening to all her problems, Saint told her about

“SAI NAV (NINE) GURUWAR (THURSDAY) VRAT”.

Saint told as follows about the Vrat.

· This Vrath can be started from any Thursday by uttering SAI BABA’s name.

· This Vrath has to be continued for 9 Thursdays.

· Any male, female or child can do this Vrat.

· On these Nine Thursday, individual who is doing vrat can eat fruit/milk/sweets etc. all day long or can have one meal a day. ONE MUST NOT DO THIS VRAT WITHOUT EATING ANYTHING.

· If possible, go to SAI BABA’s temple to have SAIBABA’s darshan on these Nine Thursday.

· At home, do pooja / prayer of SAI BABA as follows.

· In the morning or in the evening, do the pooja as mentioned below.

· Put Yellow Cloth in front of you and place SAI BABA’s Photo or Statue on this cloth.

· Light lamp (diya) in front of BABA’s picture.

· Wash or wipe BABA’s picture with clean water and cloth.

· Put “tikka (Bindi on the forehead)” with “kumkum” (red powder) on BABA’s face.

· Offer Yellow Flower to BABA.

· Offer Fruit or Sweets to BABA as Naivadhya (Prasad)

· Read this SAI story and Read / Sing SAIBABA’s Aarti after finishing Pooja and reading story.

· Tell BABA why you are doing this Vrat and ask him to fulfill your wish.

· Give Prasad to all your friends and family members and you also eat it some.

· If, because of any reason, you cannot do vrat on any Thursday, skip that Thursday and continue from the next Thursday.

· If female is doing this Vrat, skip the Thursday during Menstrual Cycle period.

· On the 9th Thursday, Celebrate SAI VRAT. In this celebration process, feed 5 poor people and distribute this SAI VRAT book among people. One can give 5, 11 or 21 etc.

· Put this SAI VRAT Story Book or printed paper , which you are going to distribute among people, when you do pooja and then give them to people. By doing this, their wishes will be fulfilled very soon too.

· All wishes will be fulfilled by doing this vrat.

In this Kali Age (Kaliyug), this vrat is very effective. This vrat will give desired fruit to doer but doer must have full faith and patience. Whoever will distribute this SAI VRAT book among people and make good name of SAI and this Vrat, their all wishes will be fulfilled.

After listening about this SAI VRAT from Saint, Kokilaben also decided to do this vrat. She started Vrat from the Thursday. And she finished 8 Guruwars with full faith. On the 9th Guruwar, she fed poor people and distributed SAI VRAT books among friends and relatives.

As soon as she finished the Vrat, all the quarrels vanished from her house. Prosperity, happiness and peace spread in her home. Maheshbhai’s nature was changed completely. Their business started doing well. And in no time, they got all the happiness and prosperity.

Both husband and wife started living happily. One day Kokilaben’s sister-in-law and brother-in-law came from Surat. Her sister-in-law was talking with Kokilaben. The former said that her kids were not studying and getting failed in exams. Kokilaben told her about SAI VRAT. She said “SAI devotion will make education better. Have faith in SAI BABA. HE helps everyone.” Kokilaben’s sister-in-law asked the detail of the vrat.

Kokilaben told about the SAI VRAT in detail. And explained her everything about the vrat. Her sister-in-law went to Surat and she sent a letter after few days. She wrote that her children have started doing SAI VRAT and now they are studying very well. She also did Vrat and distributed SAI VRAT book in her office. One of her friend, who had very hard time in getting married, got married to a very nice man after started doing SAI VRAT. Her neighbor has also started doing SAI VRAT and she got her stolen jewelry box back. It was a great miracle.

Hey SAI BABA , as you have blessed these people, please bless all of us too.


http://www.starsai.com/sai-vrat-pooja.html

Jaisairam.

subhasrini
OM SAI SRI SAI JAYA JAYA SAI!!!
Let us pray at the feet of Sai Baba who is the incarnation of all gods and protector of all, to show mercy on us, and increase our devotion towards him.

[Bright1964]

I am undergoing problems like yours. My family are so bad to me ill-treating me act. This is since my poor anti and grandfather passed away. soon after my cousin passed away.

My parents are so bad to me and someone introduced Baba to me. I kept my faith on baba, i.e. sathya Sai and shirdi Sai. But tell you the truth it all went far worse after that. Worse then it was. Now I am so confused and disappointed. I even asked for my past karma's to be forgiven

I had a feeling it would come better if I pray to baba Whether it be Sathya Sai or Shirdi but it went opposite and I made more enemies with my family overnight.


I will appreciate it Even if its a bit better. then nothing. but it did not work out for even a slight better but worse instead. Bad but true. but it could go either way for the next day.

From Rizwan

[mysai]

dear Rizwanji, please dont lose heart....ur problems may be very big...
But nothing is impossible for BABA. All He wants from us is "Shraddha"
(devotion) and "Saburi"(cheerful patience).
Baba says,

" IF I ANSWER YOUR PRAYER AT ONCE, IT IS BECAUSE I AM TESTING YOUR FAITH.
IF DID NOT ANSWER YOUR PRAYER AT ONCE, IT IS BECAUSE I AM TESTING YOUR PATIENCE.
IF I DID NOT ANSWER YOUR PRAYER AT ALL IT IS BECAUSE I HAVE A BETTER PLAN FOR YOU.
I AM HERE FOREVER WITH YOU. "

If things are getting worse, hold onto BABA, hold His divine feet so
tightly that nothing can come in between u n Baba.
Baba will definitely take care of u. Pray to Him with devotion, with belief
and trust that HE is there for u and HE is taking care of u. HE will very
soon solve all ur problems and bring lots and lots of happiness into ur
life. Whenever u feel depressed, just read Baba's miracles and leelas
and devotees' experiences with BABA. This will strengthen ur faith a lot
and will give u hope to live happily.

things will improve. BABA is there. He will take care of u and ur family.

Faith and prayers can move a mountain.

BABA bless you and be with you. Happy Thursday!!!



JAI SRI AKHANDAKOTI BRAMHANDANAYAKA RAJADHIRAJA YOGIRAJA PARABRAMHA SRI SATCHITANANDA SAMARTHA SADGURU SAINATH MAHARAJ KI JAI!!!

-keerti

[Shalishika]

Hi Prajna,

I can understand your confusion, as i am travling down a similar path. But baba always has said "why fear when i am here" if you truley believe in Baba, with all you heart then leave it too him, he will direct you in the right direction, may be there is a reason that your past love has come back into your life, if you really are so unhappy in married life then may be this is for the best, however you need to consider all the cosequences.

My life has also hit a point where i do not understand what is happening, I told Baba about my love and baba told me he was the one for me and that we will be together, baba also told me that my hearts desires will be fulfilled. When telling baba about my love i didnt mention his culture, which is different to mine... I thought that you can tie the blind eye on human, but baba knows all, and now everything is changing, baba now tells me he is not the one, and that is completely distroyring me...

But i have not lost faith in baba, I know that my heart is ture and baba has said that if you pray to him with a pure heart he will listen...you should do the same, pray to baba, ask him to help you choose the path, and ask him to guied you to the right direction.

Jai Sai Ram.

your dear friend
Shalishika.

[Kavitaparna]

OM SAI RAM

Dear Prajna Sai Ram !

Your's would have been a 'problem' had you been 'yet to be married'. Now You are married and the other boy is also engaged that is almost somebody else's on whom you have no right. You have already got what is yours. So first forget that boy. Fill your Hubby totally in your heart. Even if somebody who appears lakh times better than your hubby, it is only a mere appearance and in reality, your hubby is the best for you. Other wise, you would not have been tied up. Totally think on only as to how best you can make a happy married life. Compromises and sacrifices are the foundations of any happy married life. You would have already learnt this from your first teacher - mother. All the best. Baba bless you.

Om Sri  Sai Ram!  Om Sri  Sai Ram!  Om Sri  Sai Ram!  Om Sri  Sai Ram!  Om Sri  Sai Ram!
Om Sri  Sai Ram!  Om Sri  Sai Ram!  Om Sri  Sai Ram!  Om Sri  Sai Ram!  Om Sri  Sai Ram!
Om Sri  Sai Ram!  Om Sri  Sai Ram!  Om Sri  Sai Ram!  Om Sri  Sai Ram!  Om Sri  Sai Ram!

kavita

[bohemianbab]

Dear all,
sorry,but i donot understand why we cannot replace the words 'love' and 'understanding'with the words'compromises ' and 'sacrifices'..why anyone has to feel better at the costing of hurting the other?why one has to kill and crush ones all desires/hopes/and dreams..inorder to impress or win over the other?
I can empathise Prajna's condition and life state.She is in a serious situation and is asking some very important questions.each of us should try to think out of the box and give suggesstions.
Recently,i attended a womans forum in which there was a discussion where we were analysing the future of women in this world 200 years from today.where we will be,how we will be received and treated..how much times would hv changed..and soon and so forth.I stood upto represent millions of women in my country and announced loudly,to all these 300 women and men from London(as i am a traveller here),how hardworking,laborious,simple hearted and giving..these women of my country are! and how we can compete with the designs of items  we all see in magazines like Vogue and Marie Claire which are made by qualified designers ..But noone gives them any recognition,noone gives them any credit or inspiration.Womans life in India passes away in adjusting and sacrificing for family..and whole of her life is usually passed like this.Yes, we see our mothers too.Don't our others have any dream?Did they not want to give shape to their abilities and feel good about being themselves?So, I feel, that men should also try to develop and grow up more.Times are changing,and we need to have a balance.Love,compassion,understanding,respect are foundations of marriage.and we must try our best to generate them in a relationship.we should listen to each other and talk freely to each other.If we hide our inside and keep compromising for everything,we will justbe lifeless. Marriage  should be an experience in which we grow and bloom together and reach our utmost beauty.we should not be wilted flowers..with faded colours.I want each of you to feel special and feel worthy of respect .and baba says, with faith and patience,anything is achievable.Let us try to become comrades/colleagues and friends in our marriages.we are life PARTNERS.a partner has equal share of responsibilites/rights and duties.but everything has a right time.even gautam buddha waited for long time after attaining englightenment.because he felt that common men were not yet receptive to understand his discourses.so,sometimes, we have to find a way  which is best understood by the other party and then try and relate to them .
Sorry Prajna,
i dont think i have helped you in anyway as i hvnt mentioned abt your problem .but i genuinely feel the seriousness of this matter .I hope u should try your best to make your marriage work out.Find what he likes and tell him what u like..and u both have to agree to make it work out.Please appreciate him for whatever qualitis he has.You may not be good in something that he is good at..similarly,he maynt be good in what u re good at.I appreciate your thoughts and can make out that you are wise and thoughtful.if u want to send a mail, pls note my id is babsiswriting@hotmail.com Feel free to write what u like. and always try to connect to Sai baba and do some meditation for relaxing your mind.
I humbly apologise if anyone feels i hv cut down their word. My intention is to just to put forth my views.The more diffrent views we have, the better insights we will get.
I am sure, if or when i become a mother, I would want my daughter to have a dignified and fulfilled life full of value and inner happiness.I wouldnot want her to sacrifice all her life in deep sorrow trying to win dumb people who donot see her inner beauty and pure love .Amidst all this,i have also realised that parents have a very important role in bringing up their children.all mothers should inculcate good moral values in their children .All mothers should love their children unconditionally and selflessly.Most marriages fail or are sad due to problem from extended families in india.
Love to all..and Love Baba Sai because of whom ,i can express my views and thoughts openly on this forum.