Please Baba!

[saiaadhar]

This is a special question for Vinit Bhushan/Bharti Ji. I have been read your response to other posts where you said that if we are determined to wait all our life for what we want, then Sai baba blesses us by making our wishes come true. But, what do we do when Baba himself closes our option to wait? I love a person and would love to have him as my life partner. However, since past 7 months, things are not going as I would want them to, and my hope of having my wish fulfilled is diminishing day by day. I am willing to wait all my life for things to be better, and can't visualize anyone else in his place - my heart is frozen on him, but my mother is very sick and it is her last wish to see me married and have children. I hope and pray for her healthy life, always asking Baba to make her alright, but I am not sure what Baba has planned for us, because he shows no signs of her speedy recovery. I feel very guilty of being stubborn about my choice and waiting for it, specially since though everything was very positive in the beginning, nothing is positive now. But, everytime I see or talk to guys I do feel I can not accept them as my life partner. Why has Baba himself put me in this dilemma? I ask baba for signs daily. To show me whether I should wait or move on (though I wholeheartedly want to move on). How do I ask Baba to grant me my wish. I feel like this whole debate is killing me... I am tired of thinking and not knowing what to do. They say that when  you love someone you should be willing to desire it at any cost, but really a mother's life is not the cost one can pay. On the same hand, I cant accept anyone else as my partner. What do I do, except beg to Baba to show me a way or show me a sign?

Thank you, Sai Aadhar...

Jai Sai Ram.

[saiaadhar]

No response? Is baba testing me here also, that no one seems to be moved by plight on this forum as well?

[bharti123]

i m so sorry saidhaarji
I really didn't knew that u asked this question to me so sorry for delay. Plz dont get disheartned

[bharti123]

first of all sorry again for replying late to u.
Jst want to tell u that i myself is going through the situation where i m unable to decide whether to go for love or parents and i myself not getting answer from baba. I m not mature enough to reply to ur prob, bt i will try my best.

Sir if u did love sum1, than dont delay this thursday only ,take baba's name and tell everything that is in ur heart to ur girl and tell her that u want to marry her. Sir i strongly believe that being expressive in luv is very must.
Than only we can think about other aspects.
Always remember baba is with u, whatever she replies to u, everything depend on that only
And one more thing sir, we all love our moms ever since we opened our eyes. always remember that we r very lucky to have love of mother in our life and what ever ur beloved replies is baba's wish only
Sir i will definitely keep in touch with u at my level best to help u.

[rajiv800]

Saiadhaar ji

I think you have replied yourself in your own post by saying To show me whether I should wait or move on (though I wholeheartedly want to move on).
Vinitji or Bhartiji or anyone can pray for you but ultimately decision is yours
We can guide you or help you but then again decision aap hi lenge
one heart will be broken either the person you love or your family
At the end of the day you have to decide and do what you want
parents have supported us all our life and we should not disrespect them at any cost
but i feel if you try and make your parents understand and if they really love you and respect you they will respect your decision else i am sorry to say but if they dont they are just putting you to sacrifice your love and happiness for there happiness
Life for all of us is divided in two
one is the past that has gone with family and parents
other is the one we will be living now (without our parents)
If we get the one we really love in the rest of our life then nothing better than that
Parents once they will see you happy will be happy
if you have not spoken to them about this then speak with them and see what they say.
May sai bless you
Om sai ram

[saiaadhar]

Bhartiji dont say sorry. I am not complaining. . Thanks for your advice. I already did that, and all I got in response was "We can just be friends", but ab time ke saath dosti bhi nahi bachi. Rajiv ji, I meant to say I want to wait, but situation is such that I can't wait anymore. May be both of your responses suggest that I have no choice but to forget my love and accept it as baba's will, though it is very painful for me. My parents are not expecting me to make sacrifice, its just that my mother is suffering because she is seeing me suffer. May be baba has not written love in my destiny, and if that is baba's will, let it be so. Jai Sai.

[bharti123]

saidhaarji
If she dont look u as her future hubby than u should definitely move on.
Being a girl, i m advising u . Bcoz let us consider my case i love sum1 else and even if i m not able to marry that guy than whomsoever i will get married whether my friend or sum1 else, i won't be able to be totally loyal toward that person. Sum where in my heart i will be always having thought that this relation was a mere compromise for me.
So i really believe that we cant create feeling of love in any 1 heart, it either happen by itself otherwise never.
So u should really move ahead. See ur mother loves u show much and want to see u happy than get settled for her . u might get ur exact dream girl after ur marriage by baba's blessing.
U might be much happier after marriage.
So plz think calmly

Hey rajeev sir
How r u
I m in the same trouble
Mammi paapa started shopping of my marriage, they r lacking only one guy . The moment my marriage will be fixed they wanted me to get married as soon as possible. Today also i recieved marriage praposal from a guy.
Bt now ther is mere change in mukku. He is getting little more possesive about me showing positive indication that he might get convinced to marry me

[saiaadhar]

Thanks Bhartiji. One little correction . I am a girl. And, that is why it is tough to move on and just marry someone else. . Problem is we shared a lot of good time and it was all two way in the beginning. Sab Baba ke ashirwad se achha ho raha tha. But, then pata nahi kya gadbad hui, bas, chalti gadi atak gai. Ab mein aise duvidha mein hoon, ki kya kahun. He asked for space and aaj tak space hi de rahi hoon. Sometimes he gets possessive, but may be I am seeing positive signs because I want to see them... Shayad wo to apni life mein aage badh chuka hai. Ab, ye sai marzi, to yehi sahi. Mein chahti to nahi, but baba has not left me any option but to make compromise with my life and emotions. I prayed daily to get my love back, but may be Sai wants something else for me. Thanks for your encouragement, thanks a lot. I pray for you daily ki aapki problem solve ho jae. Mujhe pata hai pyaar na milne ka dukh kya hota hai. So, I hope no one ever gets that pain.

[saiaadhar]

Thank you. I will pray for you. Jai Sai Ram

[bharti123]

i will also pray for u
May baba bless u soon
Aum shri sai nathaya namah
Aum shri sai nathaya namah
Aum shri sai nathaya namah
Aum shri sai nathaya namah
Aum shri sai nathaya namah
Aum shri sai nathaya namah

[Veerendra]

OM SAI BABA NAMAHA

Prayer for SAIAADHAR,
BABA look into her problem & get resolve with a good solution......

A Bird Sitting On A Branch Doesn’t Get Frightend By The Shaking Branch
Because the Bird Trusts Not The Branch But Its Own Wings. Trust Urself Always

[sahastrasai]

om sai ram
om sai ram
om sai ram
om sai ram
om sai ram
om sai ram
om sai ram
om sai ram
om sai ram

[Veerendra]

OM SAI BABA NAMAHA
BABA bless her to come true her wishes..
Someone's sitting in the shade today because someone planted a tree a long time ago.

[saiaadhar]

thank u. om sai ram.

[Rashi]

dear saiaadhar,
i just went through your post...
i dont know till now whether you have moved on or not..
but if you have moved on please ignore this message..
well when we are rejected..we always take it as a very negative thought..its human nature..even i feel so...
but baba himself as given you an indication by rejection...that someone else is meant for you...(i will not use the word "someone better" since i dont want to compare someone with someone..without knowing them or even if i know them)
i always wanted to do psychology honours but somewhere never got seats in college...so i ended up doing english honours...and it was then i realised i flourished more here than i would have since it ws later i met a lott of ppl frm psychology background...n understood that i am better in this feild...
baba always gives us answer but we have to understand it....and if you are not able to understand it dont put too much of ahead in it...just have faith in baba....do your karam..have patience..he will take care of rest...he will take you where yu have to go..and with everything approved by him....
he rejects only those things..which is not good for his kids...and may be that is the only reason ...
so being natural human nature..we are negative by rejection..now try giving a positive look...
its dificult but not impossible..and once you start doing it...you will not even know the day will come when you will thank baba for this rejection.....
and then you will understand his leela.
may baba bless you and your family
om shri sainathaya namah