Pls Help Me BABAJI

[Well-wisher]

4urblessingsji... I can totally understand what ure going thru. Do not worry. From your posts I can sense whats going on. We can say he certainly doesn't love you... as of now. I can understand your frustration. I know where you're coming from. It really hurts being compared to another.

Anupamji we do not know whats exactly happening at her place. Agreed all men are not the same. But he may be very well cheating on her too.

4urblessingsji, you also must understand... there may be a possibility that he's not cheating and genuinely under pressure to hide things for other reasons. Please stop scanning his mobile phone & other stuff. It wont help. Will only make things worse for the relationship & both of u.

I understand how much it hurts. But I suggest all you should be focussing on right now is building on urself... ur abilities. Please ignore him. Give him his space for some time. Men need space. Even if he's cheating on you, your questioning him is not going to help in any way. I understand ur anger... but my dear friend... if u really want to save this relationship... kindly dump ur anger & focus on urself. Once ure the best, he wont ever go anywhere...

& I hope it happens soon. Om Sai Ram

[shyama77]

jai sai ram sister plz dont lose heart have faith in baba, like you said he knows everything,he knows what is going on with you but Only if it is possible for you just go to shirdi and if not ask baba to come to your house and i am 100% sure he will bless you with loads of happiness that you cant ever imagine...sharadha saburi just 2 words but very strong and pious.

Sister keep reciting Baba's name and baba will take away ALL your sorrows and make you happy forever but do not forget him.........the day is coming close to you.

BABA PLZ BLESS HER AND HELP HER

OM SAI NATH !

[Sonu2310]

Om sai ram didi,
                        Dont lose ur heart. Baba can never cheat their beloved ones. He is giving u so much pain keeping in mind ur threshold, just to know whether u would still believe him even in this difficult situation. Completely trust him. Trust ur husband but dont have blind faith. Be aware of every possible situation. In this yuga, money talks a lot, there is no value for relationships in front of money. God has given u a chance to prove ur husband that whatever happens in life, u shall always stand beside him, trust him ,help him . Do it and then u yourself will realize the truth and see Baba's miracles. take care.

[Anupam]

>>But he may be very well cheating on her too. <<

WWji point taken. Now tell me has our sister, informed her husband abt the good friend and the family matters that are being going to him???
There is a saying which is very easy to follow and works wonders "A FAMILY THAT PRAYS TOGETHER STAYS TOGETHER". However it is the city bred ultrawesternised, egoistic mother and Govt pampered females who discard it for some TV serials.
WWji the brutal fact IS that males and females are two parallel lines never destined to meet. The institution called marriage (the greatest misfortune ever befalling mankind) tries to build bridges but what is impossible is impossible.

[Well-wisher]

Anupamji... its ok. Men will always be men & women, women. Right now we are here to help each other, understand each other's pain. I agree you may have seen a really bad side of women. Completely understand that. But not all men are the same nor are all women. We all make mistakes in life, have wrong attitudes. Its ok. Its ok to be imperfect. God made us the way He made us cause He feels this is how He wants us to be. I suggest we forget the male-female outlook and look at each other as just humans... just as souls.

4urblessingsji... my suggestion, you first keep this friend of yours out of your life... at least until ur marriage. This friend is not and cannot help you in anyway. He can only make things worse for you. Stop thinking of all else & keep working on yourself. Do ur prayers, yoga, read Sai Satcharitra, do japa if possible. Learn some new stuff... do a couple of courses. Focus on building urself and enjoying ur life. Even if he is cheating, once he sees the true potential in you am sure he will come back. But remember... for that instead of cursing men or society or feeling helpless you need to constantly work on yourself. Work very hard. Read a lot of books. Aquire knowledge. Be smart, be informed. Get a good job. Be completely independent... n by that I mean both independent financially & emotionally (ie. your happiness should not be dependent on ur hubby or anyone).

Just keep focussing on that. All else will eventually fall in place. Just do not pay attention to what he's doing. He'll realize in time and come back to you a changed man. Be that... which he could never even dare to dream of having... Then how will he ever cheat on you???

[Well-wisher]

4urblessingsji... I really with a true heart wish to help you. Please trust me. & trust me I'll be with you thru this... ok? I know what u feel, what ure going thru. It really hurts to know the one you love & consider your best friend for life doesnt care about you. But 4urblessingsji... thats why we call that person our best friend for life right? So that we stick to each other thru thick & thin, learn together, share experiences...

4urblessingsji... we very rarely get an opportunity to love selflessly & just give, give, give, give...
This one is yours. God has given you this situation so that you learn to forgive your best friend lovingly... stand by him... give him his space & be his best friend. Your chance to do all it takes to keep him smiling and happy. Many times we realize this when its too late. But I wish to share it with you now so that you don't let it be too late.

Its ok na... he's behaving this way. LET HIM. For some time, let him. Don't say a word. Just let him be. Work on yourself. Your inner qualities... wisdom... your capabilities, personality. Be his best friend. Try and smile. Where there is true unconditional love, he surely has to respond back to it 4urblessingsji. Trust me, it works. Don't say a word. Don't even think about all this for now. Let him be what he is. You do your duty. Give him love... loads of it. Love is when you want to see the opposite person smile. Its not easy to love... cause love is giving, giving, giving, giving... Love is acceptance. Pray for him. Not that God get him back... (of course you can pray for that too) but... just pray for him. His happiness, his peace.

Do ur thing. God will do His. & have faith. All will be good.

Om Sai Ram

[PreetiSai1]

Well Wisher ji... I have a similar situation. God bless you for such kind words. I try to be like what you said but then crash again one day. I keep asking him why does he not love me and he says when i come and ask it pushes him away even more. I dont know what to do some days. I sit down to pray and I have all these thoughts in my mind. I dont know how to snp out of it. But I am taking it day by day. Your words today helped me gain a little bit of confidence on myself. I have to remind myself constantly to remember what you said. Om sai ram.

[Well-wisher]

Preetiji... If love is destined to flow your way from him it will. If not, it won't. But if you keep asking him & expecting him to love you back... ur expectations are blocking the flow of true love.

True love is to give right... Give him love, give him space. If you've given him love & space or what he desires... ur love is truly successful. Give love... & leave d rest to God. Work on urself. Make urself a better person. Love will flow back automatically... & in abundance...

Keep praying. Keep the faith strong.

4urblessingsji... have faith. Its a tough phase I know. But this too shall pass. You have to win over frustration, depression & anger right? Your opportunity to give love... don't loose it! & just see how love flows back to you. Just ignore all he does and keep giving love. Just keep doing it... for as long as forever... Love has tremendous power. Am sure it will make miracles happen in your life too. Keep giving him your love, service and compassion. Support him. Give him his space. Am sure eventually his heart will melt too. Remember... you have to be that which no mans heart can ever resist... pure love... even his heart won't resist it. Am sure.

Om Sai Ram

[milapsethi]

OM SAIRAM
As i have felt we are responsible for our failure.God is always showering his blessings only we are not seeking that much what GOD can offer us.If you have that much will i can assure you in a day you will get the result.If you want help tell me I God will show you the result in a day in 24 hrs.
OM SAI RAM

[Anupam]

>>Well Wisher ji... I have a similar situation. God bless you for such kind words. I try to be like what you said but then crash again one day. I keep asking him why does he not love me and he says when i come and ask it pushes him away even more. I dont know what to do some days. I sit down to pray and I have all these thoughts in my mind. I dont know how to snp out of it. But I am taking it day by day. Your words today helped me gain a little bit of confidence on myself.<<

PREETJI IT CAN BE "PITRUDOSH" Kindly get both of ur horoscopes checked

[saicharandhool]

Baba mere sai..meri behan ki madad kar..Bless his entire family...OM SAI NATHAY NAMAH

[Ramesh Ramnani]

जय सांई राम।।।

First change the title of Topic and see the miracle....I have requested you earlier also in my hindi language now again I am telling you in english....Its not the way to deal with MY BABA SAI...On the one hand you are alleging him to be cheater and on the other hand begging for HIS Mercy...I know I am little harsh...but If you want change in your life...just do what I am telling u...I thought of not replying to any of your post....but I am telling you from my experience....first stop negative thinking and thoughts...You are only feeding energy to all your negativity...

हम खुशी की चाह में हर खुशी से दूर हो गये
हम खुशी की चाह में हर खुशी से दूर हो गये
ढूढने चले थे  ढूढने चले थे ज़िन्दगी
ज़िन्दगी से दूर हो गये। ज़िन्दगी से दूर हो गये।

अपना सांई प्यारा सांई सबसे न्यारा अपना सांई

ॐ सांई राम।।।
 

[bharti123]

ramesh ji mujhe apki baat bahut achhi lagi
bcoz i too believe ki hamare dukh se hamse jada baba paesan ho jate he
vo to hamesha hume khush dekhna chahte he na

sach me hamare sai pyaare sai he

hum khush rahege to vo khush rahege

thanks for ur sach a nice advise
may sai bless all of us

om sai nath

[Well-wisher]

Have faith my friend. All will be fine. You do your bit & leave the rest to God. Am sure He will come to your rescue. He always does. Thoda faith & patience. Please... Om Sai Ram

[Ramesh Ramnani]

जय सांई राम।।।

Nice to see change in Title...Now wait and see HIS Real Mercy....

दूसरे की औषधि तुम्हारे लिए ज़हर भी हो सकती है। तुम्हारी औषधि भी दूसरे के लिए ज़हर हो सकती है। न तो कोई औषधि औषधि है, न कोई ज़हर ज़हर है। जो ज़हर तालमेल खा जाए, औषधि बन जाता है; जो औषधि तालमेल न खाए, ज़हर हो जाती है। सदा अपने भीतर तौलते रहना। यही जीवन को जीने का राज़ है।

अपना सांई प्यारा सांई सबसे न्यारा अपना सांई

ॐ सांई राम।।।