I would like share this extract from sukhabodhananda's Book 'oh,Mind Relax Please'.He exactly depicted what ego means,how people suffer from ego.The explanation was really superb.
An egoistic person expects others to listen to his point of view.”Every one should show respect to me”would be his stand and expectation.What does that mean?He would be happy if others show him respect.Simply said,in order to feel happy,he expects others to nod their heads in agreement with him.He is like a beggar indirectly begging others to show him respect.When others do not give him the aims of ‘respect’,his peace of mind is lost and happiness disappears!
Hindu scriptures mention god as “Ananda” meaning ‘joy’.The word ego could be expanded thus-Edging God Out that means,moving god or joy away from us is the state of ego.
In Hindu tradition ,people break coconuts in front of god to symbolize breaking of ego.While breaking the coconut,we indirectly signify to ourselves,’Oh,God!I am breaking the ego-‘I’, in front of you!’.
Just as sweet water comes out of the broken coconut,so does joy emerge when ego is surrendered.
Let us say that you happen to state your opinion among friends or in the work place.Your emphasis on the opinion is quite strong.Yet,somehow your idea is not accepted.If you were a person with out ego,you would not worry too much about it.Whether others praise your idea ,or make fun of it,accept it or reject it,you would not be unduly affected.
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Attitude of ego-lessness gives altitude of joy