JAI SAI RAM!!!
Again I must say that whatever I write I am writing in general. No specific person is in my mind. I agree about my contradictory views on something but what to do in your day to day life when you meet some people who are so chronically negative that you have no other choice but to avoid them. If you have negative people in your life that are critically affecting your mental and physical health, you need to evaluate whether or not you want these people in your life. There are certain people like a boss, friend or co-worker that you can remove from your life or at least avoid for long periods of time. Other people, such as children and spouses, may require professional intervention if their negativity is affecting your life. Reinforce very strong boundaries with chronically negative people so you can protect your well being.
My dear Sunita once again I will say that whatever I have learnt through my life I present my side of life's view which may or may not be agreed upon in general. Life can't be understood in simpler terms rather it has to be lived to the fullest. Life is a paradox; paradox in its nature. It is not strange.
But people are so much addicted to logic that whenever life reveals itself to them, it looks strange. Logic has been continuously taught to us -- that contradictory things cannot exist together. Logic has been teaching us that either it is day or it is night; either it is life or it is death, either it is happiness or it is unhappiness. The whole mechanism of logic is of 'either-or'.
And life is both together. Life is all together. Whenever we reach to the deepest sadness, suddenly we will see it is turning into happiness. Or, you reach to the deepest happiness and you will see that it is turning into sadness. At the centre they meet; only on the periphery are they separate.
It is just as if you make a circle, and from the centre you can draw many lines towards the periphery. On the periphery, the circumference, the lines are very far away. Move towards the centre and by and by they come closer and closer, and exactly on the centre they become one point.
All paradoxes meet within me; all paradoxes meet in existence. Only on the periphery of my mind are they separate. Deep in me, life and death are both one. Deep in me, happiness and unhappiness are both one. Deep in me, God and the devil are both me. Deep in me, this world and the other are both one, this shore and the other shore are both one.
But whenever I come for the first time to that point of realization, it looks strange, unfamiliar. But I tell you, if you are really happy, tears will come.
It is impossible if the happiness has gone really deep -- it cannot be without tears. Of course, the quality of those tears is absolutely different. It is not of sadness; it is of overflow.
And remember, if I have not known sadness together with happiness I have not known anything yet. Then my happiness is superficial; ymy sadness is also superficial. Then I have been living on the surface; then I have known only the waves; I have not known the depth of the ocean that I am.
Life is contradictory, paradoxical. It has to be so, because only then can it be so rich. If your happiness cannot cry and weep, it will be shallow, it cannot be rich. And if your tears cannot laugh, and if your sadness cannot dance, then it is superficial. In the depth, the sadness becomes a song -- a tremendous beauty of silence surrounds you, and a song is born out of the depth.
If you look into it, you will find you are not sad. The sadness is there, the happiness is there, and you are neither. This is the innermost triangle of existence; this is the point of transcendence where opposites meet. You immediately transcend. You become the third, immediately. When you see happiness and sadness meeting, suddenly you are separate from both; all identity is broken. Then you know you are a witness. Now it is for you to be identified -- either, if you want, you can be identified with sadness or you can be identified with happiness. When you are identified with happiness, sadness is suppressed; when you are identified with sadness, happiness is suppressed -- but both are two aspects of the same coin; and you are the master. The coin is in your hand; you are not the coin at all.
OM SAI RAM!!!
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