Depression - How to get healed!

[vishwanath69]

OM SAI RAM

Respected Rahul ji,

You are clearly perturbed. Depression is a state of the mind, we may get depressed over our carrer, family, finances, health...there are so many things to think that we do not possess and ponder about them and lead our mind into a state of depression.
I am not one to give you a magic remedy.All that I want to point out is think of the crores of people who have nothing and are far below the poverty line.If I were to compare myself and feel how crickters,and certain individuals are much better off because they have this and that..then where would I be as an individual.
You are meant for better things which will come by your way. Just live for the present, not the previous second or what may happen in the next second.I have been and continue to undergo periods like u have described..honestly I have no control over what is going to happen...then if it is not in your hands this state of mind should be shed. You are going to be a good human being all your life. That to me is something to rejoice and feel happy for you. Sai wii show the path.......just be patient.

I hope I have not offended you,

Warm Regards,

SABKA MALLIK EK

[punam s]

dear rahul dont lose hope n faith Gods will help u , i have also faced the same problem i have completed  my 3 year graduation in 7 year , all my fnd had completed their pg also but i was there only , i dint quit & gave exam now i m having 4 degrees more then my frnd have  & a good job all my fnd are house wife sitting at home .......... om sai ram....... gudluck

[saib]

Ten Tips for Overcoming Depression

by Karl Perera

1. Fresh Air. Open the windows in your house and breath in fresh air. Go for a walk and enjoy the benefits that a fresh supply of oxygen has on your brain. Just getting outdoors will relax you and melt away your stress. Your negative thinking will disappear and you'll feel happier.
 
2. Exercise. This follows on from the previous tip. Exercise will help you to forget your worries and will help you feel more positive. Your energy will increase and you'll feel ready to face the world with a new happier attitude. Exercise also helps to make you look better and will boost your confidence. Just try exercising and being negative - you can't!
 
3. Light. You may feel unhappy in the winter or on dark days. Don't you feel happy when the sun shines? Try to make your home as light as possible. If necessary change the colours so that light reflects off the walls. Go outside when the sun is out. Sunlight has health benefits (don't overdo it of course). More light will make you feel happier and healthier too.
 
4. Imagine. Let your imagination help you to break out of your negative thoughts. Using your imagination to visualize (see your dreams becoming real) is very powerful. Actually, just using your mind to imagine for a moment what might happen if things improved or if you had what you want or need can help you incredibly. Your depression will start to melt away as you begin to imagine what is possible, instead of what is impossible. If you can dream about something you CAN achieve it.
 
5. Set some goals. Depression gets worse as you feel hopeless. Having a sense of hope comes from having clear aims. Are you drifting without direction in your life? If so you'll feel unhappy and dissatisfied. Clear goals will help you to feel more positive.

So how should you make goals? Your dreams for a happier future will seem more reachable if you break them into smaller achievable steps. Make each goal easy because when you suffer from depression you need hope that you can complete the steps and goals you set. What do you want or need to change? What challenges or problems do you need to overcome? Note them down. What is making you so unhappy and depressed? What goals will help you? Setting achievable goals will change your thinking so you become less negative and unhappy. As you achieve each goal your negativity becomes positivity.
   
6. Take action. Doing nothing or procrastinating feeds depression. It increases your hopelessness and unhappiness so take action as soon as you can. When you know what you need to do, don't wait, get started and you'll feel happier imediately. Action works against depression and lifts you into a more positive frame of mind. Beware of indecision. Inaction because of indecision only leads back to unhappiness and depression. Fear is often behind indecision and inaction so focus on facing any fears which stop you from acting positively. Take action - any action - today!
 
7. Express your emotions. Talk to a friend and explain how you feel. It may do you a lot of good to talk about your pain. A friend will give you a different perspective. A friend can share their experience and support you. Maybe your friend has also suffered from depression and can help with some advice.
 
8. Write about your progress. Writing about the pain that depression is causing you is helpful but not if you focus on that too much. The best way to use writing to heal yourself is to create a journal and write about your progress. You should write down how you behave and feel as you face challenges each day. In particular, note down how, despite your unhappiness and negativity, you are not giving up rather you are slowly taking steps to escape the darkness. Rate your performance in difficult situations and the improvement in how you feel about yourself.
 
9. Read a book that will make you feel happy. Books are so motivating and there are so many out there that can strengthen you.

10. Listen to inspiring music. This is an instant mood changer. When I feel stressed or angry for some reason I slip on my headphones and listen to soothing music. In an instant my negative thoughts become positive and my unhappiness leaves me. There is so much great music out there. I particularly like Enya or Origen for example but anything inspirational be it classical, new age or rock can work. Try it. Depression is closely linked to stress, so inspirational music can relax you and help you to calm yourself.

[shaunmedrik]

Depression is come many way like family problem, any educational problem and many more but it many tips like Think Positive in your life and developed interest in any things and fix your personal problem and create a positive social life.

[3val4india]

I can say hanuman chalisa without looking at book and I read it everyday. I also pray everyday for strength but I never get it . It's getting worst and worst. I been patient for llong time. I'm getting  old

[rajni1607]

Om sai Ram

Thanks for sharing this with all of us.

In our sufferings we always forget all this, But we should trust our Baba, He is with us always.

He will save us from all evil as He has done before so many times.

Jai Sai ram

Thanks
  Rajni Sai

[chawlavaibhav1]

Very True Nimmi ji.
I had experienced all this and Baba had pulled me out of this depression.

Thanks
Vaibhav

[3val4india]

I'm so nervous

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[Sairamsai]

Rahul trust me bro sorrows should not make you a bitter but better person bro. How do I convince you? Use it to build your character. I am in a hell of depression myself still. Believe me waking up with swollen eyes is not fun and neither sleeping crying. But every day I drag myself out of my loneliness which ofcourse nobody else but my own fault. But this post is not to tell you how bad my situation is but try to tell you that I am fighting depression for over 3 years now. And have failed miserably but havent given up thf hope my dear still. I pray daily I cry daily and try to find some solution daily. And thats what brought me to this forum and this post particularly. And would definitely try everything that Saib ji has to say. Who knows it chadmges one day. I live in hope and that atleast doesnt lemme commit suicide. Hope you too get over your bitterness one day. Your looser wellwisher

[Sairamsai]

Sorry had to blow my nose. I am back again. Even talking about crying makes me cry. That kinda infectious depression is some serious disease. But plz plz plz dont give up on hope and thank God every day what you have. I tell him thanks for giving me a wonderful face, heart and brains too lol. Rarely you find dis combo in girls lol. So whatever is there except and analyse it. Cry when heart is full it helps. But keep struggling coz all the religions say we are eternal blissful souls and we are his part and parcels and each one of us is very special. So lets try to gain our original position. Isnt that we live and die for all our life. You too are unique and very much loved by God. Dont waste human form as Baba says in only worldly pleasures. Do some soul searching too. It ll help. And while I was giving you lecture see my tears dried. Ofcourse hanuman chalisa is playing all this while. Keep praying. Hope all these afflictions make some sense to us one day. And till then keep praying

[ShAivI]

ॐ साईं राम!!!

कहते हैं "शरीर के घाव जल्दी भार जाते हैं पर आत्मा क घाव भरने में
बहुत वक्त लगता है ।

मानसिक प्रताड़ना को भावनात्मक और दिमागी प्रताड़ना भी कहा जा सकता है ।

लगातार किया जा रहा मानसिक दुर्व्यव्हार व्यक्ति के भावनात्मक विकास पर
बहुत ही नकारात्मक असर छोड़ देता है और आत्मा को छलनी कर देता है ।

किसी व्यक्ति को लगातार एहसास कराना कि वह बेकार है, नकारा है,
प्यार और इज़्ज़त क काबिल नही है ये मानसिक प्रताड़ना ही होती है।
 
व्यक्ति को विकास रंग रुप, व्यवहार और सामाजिक स्थिति कई बातों से नीचा दिखाया
जाना भी मानसिक प्रताड़ना में आता है।
 
बार बार उसकी कम़जोरियों को जताना, तिरस्कार करना, लगातार आलोचना करना,
अपमान करना मजाक बनाना आदि भी मानसिक प्रताड़ना है ।

ऐसा काम जो कोई व्यक्ति करने में असमर्थ है, वो काम बार बार करने को कहना साथ ही
ये उम्मीद रखना के वह व्यक्ति आपकी गुलामी करे भी मानसिक प्रताड़ना है।
 
किसी इनसान कि भावनात्मक जरूरतों को नकारना, dominate करना, emotional ब्लैकमेल,
अपशब्द बोलना ये सब कि पुनरव्रत्ति से पीड़ित व्यक्ति स्व्यं को कं आँकने लगता है।

वह हर वक्त सहमा हुआ सा रहता है।

बचपन में हुई मानसिक प्रताड़ना का असर व्यक्तितव पर ज़िंदगी भर रहता है।
 
बहुत संभव है कि वह बच्चा आगे जाकर यही बर्ताव दूसरों के साथ करे।

इस तरह कि प्रताड़ना भरे रिश्ते के बारे में किसी से बात करके अपने मन कि जमी हुई
परतों को खोल देने से व्यक्ति का आत्मसम्मान और आत्मविश्वास वापस आ सकता है।
 
आप उनसे संपर्क करे जो लगता है कि मनस्थिति को समझ सकते है।
 
हो सकता है कि वे अपराधबोध, हीन भावना, उदासी एकाकिपन तिरस्कार कि भावना से बाहर आकर
ज़िंदगी कि एक खुशनुमा शुरुआत कर सके।
 
जब आप खुश रहोगे तभी आप दूसरों को खुश रख सकते हैं।

आपके भयावह भूतकाल से बाहर निकले और भार मुक्त होकर आगे कि खुश्हाल ज़िंदगी बसर करें
एकाकिपन, तिरस्कार कि भावना से बाहर आकर ज़िंदगी कि एक खुशनुमा शुरुआत कर सके।

जब आप खुश रहोगे तभी आप दूसरों को खुश रख सकते हैं।

ॐ साईं राम, श्री साईं राम, जय जय साईं राम !!!

[romshri]

Depression is in itself is a very bad way to deal with stress of lifes. To overcome it people do a lot of things,. One of the best and effective meand is doing mediation in religious ways daily with the help of yoga.

[Ajay0]

 Namaste ,

This is an informative thread with very good posts. 

My regards to all the posters here.

In this Kali Yuga, where tamas is very high, there is bound to be sadness and depression, which are the qualities of tamas.

Our duty then lies in increasing our sattva , which is the guna associated with happiness and joy , and reducing tamas.

We can reduce tamas by giving up all activities associated with tamas, like intake of non-vegetarian food, alcohol and intoxicants. Similarly refrain from harsh speech at all times and speak sweetly always , as this is a tapas in itself , as taught by Krishna in Gita.
Also keep away from bad, tamasic company and keep the company of sattvic people and places.

Sattva can be increased by taking fresh vegetarian food offered to God ( just visualize offering the food to God lovingly , and then eat it as prasad ). Spending time in nature , parks or the beach also increases sattva in oneself.

I find the best way to increase sattva is by rising up early morning in Brahmamuhurtham or Amritvela ( 4:00 - 6:00 ) , taking a bath, and meditating upon God or worshipping him with love.  If you can do this, the whole day would be happier, peaceful and joyful for you.

Pranaams.