Dear 4rblessings,
I am so sorry to hear about your plight.tell me if your is an arranged marriage or love marriage?? See no matter what situation the person is going through,one must never lose his/her self respect.See if you are confident that he had been in touch with any of these escort services,trust such people only promise to change,but it takes life time for them to change.You wiegh pros and cons with this husband of yours.No sane person who is married and wants to be committed to his wife can never do such things.
Even for me Baba gave me clear indication to get married to this person.Even before we got married we had huge rows just out of his insecurity,arrogance and pride and to an extent his upbringing.Many people form his side suggested me to get divorced but I felt as if I am a hindu nari and its my sole responsiblity to modify his habits and change him in to a better person.Trust me dear,no one can change our future but for God.One year after the other he has been having some insecurities,if he over came one,next year another one would pop up.So far I never had any peace of mind.My parents wanted me to compromise but at the same time they wanted me to work right from the begininng but I never took their words seriously.Later I gave birth to a boy,.Slowly I got myself stuck up in this marriage.There will be change over the time but not in them change will be in us.We get used to their accusations and insecurities and treat them as if its our responsibility.where as they think just feeding wife and kid is their only job and that they are doing it.
Dear,i am not advising you to break up with this person.But just weigh pros and cons as to living with this person.They always promise that they will change.may be sometimes they really feel bad but they can never stick to their words as they are victims to their menatal instabilities.
I always thought I loved my husband,.Mine was an arranged marriage but I felt as if he was the right one for me.SOmetimes,I feel may be we force BABA to accept our desires,so HE had no choice but to accept them.Its us who have to bear the brunt.
SO I would say,donot think about him or his misdeeds.Just go ahead and complete your education or take up a job and be independent.Dress up well.Be active.Be happy.Just be as if you dont care about what he does where he goes.
Stop talkin about horoscopes.Astrologers said we would have very good compatibility.LOL.we never did.
So...stop blaming yourselves...stop blaming BABA.
Just concentrate on your career however difficult it might be.
PLease talk to your parents,donot directly tell them abt escort services..and you please take utmost care in your physcial proximity with him lest you contract any diseases from him.
Please take care of your physical and mental health.DONOT ever allow any kind of phyical torture no matter what.Tell him that you will call police if he even dares to do that.
I hope I dint cross my line. I just want you to be smart and intelligent to take better step forward,
We as Indian women think in terms of Sita,Savitri even when husbands are not like Sri Rama.
So I hope I made my point clear.Become independent.
Such people hardly change.PLease Please please trust me.They promise to change but they cannot.
Leave it to BABA.
Please take care of yourselves.
Sairam
Sandhya
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