PLzz tel me what To do to get my LoVee back..plzz help me SAI AND ALL MEMBERS:)

[aakanksha]

heyyyyyyyy.......hieeeeeeee ppl..i am vry new to this forum..... but i am goin through this site snc quite few weeks now...n i am glad to see how you ppl work together as a family to solve each oders problems with baba"s grace..commendable job i mus say..n dts y m evn lukn upto all of you to help me get a solution for my problem which is stated below.....
PLZ HELP ME FOR THIS PROBLEM OF MINE....

I WAS IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH THIS GUY since the last two and a half years...n before the relationship we were best friends for a year..so its almost like 4 years i was with him...nothing was goin wrong in our relationship...but since like a week or soo he stopped giving time to me..i mean he did give me time but not fully...n because of this i started cripping and faught with him for like jus 3-4 days...i dun noe what went rong with him then suddenly he started saying that he wnts to break up with me,that he wants to be single,that he is sick of relationships,that v both r just draging the relationship n that he is with me forcefuly...i dun noe what happened to him suddenly and i vz sick of him saying all thse things to me,treating me soo bad,hurting me soo mch evryday..so i set him free n agreed to watever he said and broke up with him...n the saddest part is that all these things just happened in a weeks time..cz a week before we celebrated our 2 and a half years anniversary together..n he was all very excited...he was a very nice guy..n he really luvd me alot...both our families knew about us..n they all luvd our relationship..n us...n had no problems with it...firstly when v broke up i thot hel realize what hes doin with me n he will come back in some days..cz he always used to do this when eva v used to fyt..woh mere pichhe aata tha..mujhe manaata tha cz usually it olwyz used to be his fault...n i thot he cnt hurt me soo much ds time cz he really luvd me soo like olwys this time woh mujhe mannaiga..but usually our fights n break ups used to last nt mre than 5 days...n nw its been 6 months i am just running after him n hes not bothered... ...i am a vry sensitive girl n he noes it..n i usually cry on lil lil things specially if it is related to him...now vn i cry infront of him..he doesnt care...i have did sooo mch 4 him in these last 4 years...i dun evn have frnds i vz soo mch into him and his frnds...he really meant alot to me and evn he cudnt live wdout me before...all his frnds used to tel me before how much he luvd me...nw its been 6 months i cry in front of him,beg him literally...tel him that i am vry lonely i need you...and he treats me like shit...n til nw if sumtims vch is vry rear he wnts to tok to me i am olwys available fr him..i talk to him fr hours vn he cals me cz he wants to talk to me...n it vz his bday in jan he wntd to meet me...so he came outside my house n i meet him evn aftr takn soo much of shit 4m him..n vn its vzmy bday in nov i beggd him to meet me but he stl din meet me...n hamesha yeh hota tha snce d last 4 years v olwys usd to be with each odr on our bdays..n this time olso on his bday i met him..but vn i wntd to meet him on my bday he nva did..vn he wnts to talk to me or meet me i olwayz do what he wants n dats wat i used to do ven v vr in a relationship...but when i cl him or i wnt to meet him...he either cuts my phone or tok to me very badly n jab woh khud cal karta hai toh hes vry sweet and i am never rude or bad with him....n he evn has a lot of frnds jo usse bigaadte hain n wd them he evn keeps himself busy..but he vz nevr like this..he really luvd me..he vz vry series 4 men v evn planned our future togetha..n now when i tel him what abt our dreams n ol..he tells me grow up aakanksa,u r such a kid,and he evn says that hel never come back to me,that he doesn fees fr me at ol..I DUN KNOW WHAT TO DO i am jus cryn n beggn this guy snce the last 6 months....n he treats me like shit...but tl now when he himself calls me hes vry sweet wd me n cres 4 me..n dn vn i ask hm abt dse things...he says hel nevr come back....I AM SHATTERED I DUN KNOW WHAT TO DO...??PLZ HELP...THE LAST TIME I SPOKE TO HIM WAS ON 16TH MARCH...I HAD A FYT WD HIM CZ I TOLD HIM THAT I REALLY NEED YOU,PLZZ CME BACK TO ME...HE SPOKE TO ME 4 1N HOUR THAT DAY N DEN LATER HE CUT THE PHONE ON MY FACE....n that day I SWEARED ON SAIBABJI IN FRONT OF HIM THAT A DAY WUD COME IN HIS LIFE WHEN HE WUD WNT ME BACK IN HIS LIFE,WHEN HE WUD MISS ME,WHEN HE WUD GO THROUGH THE SAME SHIT WHICH HE IS GIVING ME,N I EVN SAID THAT I SWEAR ON SAIBABJI A DAY WUD COME WHEN YOU WILL COME BACK TO ME......i was crying n saying ol this and he laughed on me n said that i am crazy,and said that i should get a life and grow up and even said that he will neva come back...n cut my phone... ...its been 3 weeks today i hvnt spoken to him..i nva cald him aftr that..WATTTT SHOULD I DO..I AM GOIN THROUGH A LOT F SHIT SINCE 6 MONTHS...SHOW ME A WAY ALL OF U OUT THERE AND BABA U TO TO GET HIM BACK TO ME???...I REALLY LUV HIM ALOT EVN AFTR OL THIS...i noe i did mistakes by fightin wd him 4 a week but m sory baba..plz 4rgve me....?

[anushka]

Hello Aakansha......
I really feel bad of what u r going through.......but believe me .....its high time u  get out of his this crap guy.He is not worthy of ur true emotions.I know this must be hurting u a lot..and its easier said than done but now enough is enough.Dont let him take u for granted.U dont deserve all this .PLZ control ur emotions and this is ur testing time.Maintain ur dignity and grace ....dont cry and plz no more begging.Be with people who cheer u up and not the one who again push u towards him.This guy will never come  and if he comes back..that will make ur life more miserable.....coz he doesnt seem to affected by ur pitiable condition.If after 4 yrs of friendship and love if he laughs at u when u r crying,hangs phone on u,then he is disgusting.He will  surely repent one day of having lost u.And above all Sai baba  is there with u.Pray hard and try to smile..so that u can start ur normal life again

 Sometimes we must be hurt in order to grow,
We must fail in order to know,
We must lose in order to gain,
Some lessons are learned best only through pain.
Sometimes our vision clears,
Only after our eyes are washed with tears.
In order to grow, you must stand
Look beyond the hurt, to God's loving hands

[son$ai]

hello akkansha ji
really feeling vry bad frm heart for
i wanna tell u ki mere beloved k sath b jab clashes hote hai to main reazn hota hai ki dosto ne kuch bhadka diya, one thng i can say surely that his friends r fillin all this wrng stuff in his mind abt u, boyz are like this only pehle humare kiddish behaviour k vajase hi hume pasandkarte hai or baad me humari yehi aadate unhe irritate karti hai or yehi se fights shuru hoti hai
i also love a guy truly so i can understand ur sufferings vry well, or hum kitna b sehle par us bande ko replace karne ki soch b nai sakteapni life se or unhe shaayad hi farq padta hai,

i agree wid anushka ji as well that he doesnt deserve u at all, par agar ye sab uske dosto k bhadkaane ki vajase hi hua hai toh aapko ye relation yahan nai chodna chahiye or agar ye saari soch aapke beloved ki khud hai to aap chaah k b kuchnai karpaaoge,
abi aap jitna matter solve karne ki koshish karae ho utna vo aapse dur horaha hai so nw its time to wait for only n only baba's indication nw u leave evrything on baba n live ur life happily, meri posts pe ek bahut achi baat kahi hai sabne muje ki if baba has made him only for u then he'll cum back to u, u jst chant sai's name daily n as ur love is true, then jst leave it on baba he can do anything n he'l bring him back to u, ab baba hi use realise karasakte hai ki vo kitni pyaari ladki ko kho raha hai, us se mat baat kijiye aap jab use wakai me lagne lagega ki aakansha ne ab efforts daalna chod dia hai or aapne likha hai ki vo aapse pehle bahut pyaar karta tha, to agar vo waakai me pyaar karta tha to vo jarur realise karega or aapko khud se dur nai hone dega or khud aapko manaega, he wont let u go frm his life agar unhone aapse dil se pyaar kiya hoga toh

or agar aisa nai hota hai thn dear he is nt rite guy for u, i knw its so painful to accept dis bt ab baba jo karenge apni daugther k liye vai sabse acha hoga aapke or aapke future k liye
so nw jst chant sai's name n leave evrything on baba

ek baat bahut buri lagi aapke baare me ki vo aapke b'day me b nai aaya aapke saath, agar vo aapse waakai me pyaar karta hota to chaahe kitni misunderstandings ho b'day jaisa imp day vo aapke saath jarur spend karta, im sorry to say plz dnt mind bt i think its 1 is sided love

aakansha ji agar aapko meri koi b baat buri lagi ho thn im vry sorry frm my heart.

nw have faith on sai n leave it on baba, watevr he'll do ,will b the best for u! have ptience n wait for the right time aap ab keval sacchee dil se baba se pray kareyi  baba aapko indication jarur denge
take care dear om sai ram!

[aquafish]

hey aakanksha...

first thing...even i did this mistake...dont let ur life revolve around u.....so when he comes back ur happy and when he deosnt u r miserable..i get that...have a life of ur own..start a hobby..make friends..have fun..nothing is wrong with that..and show him how independent u are...often girls change when they r in a relationship..itni dependency mat rakho uske upar..show him how strong u are...and if u want ghar aake rona....

seriously it works...and when he calls, dont talk like ur waiting for his call,...seriously he might a super awesome guy, but he needs to know, he needs to panic that u r ok without him..humesha uske aage if u cry, the tears lose their values..it happened to me..isliye bol rahi hoon... listen to me...

Guys cant stand tears..initially they will console but if u keep crying all the time, he will hate it....so for some days....when he calls, talk like u have other things to do..give him a feeling ki u have moved on and u have no time for this...and see how he reacts....hope ur getting this....i am sorry if i am harsh..i am a very optimistic person and i dnt want to judge him or u...but reading ur exp...thats what i feel...guys feel stifled in a relationship after some time...they want a change....

Evn i was a super independent person lekin jab i fell in love with my best friend, i changed..i became passive..i started doing everything for him and his friends and he started missing the old me and we had fights etc etc...and i used to cry, beg plead...and everytime he had the time , i wud meet him..

but aajkal i do stuff for myself..i made new friends, i make plans with them too...and take some time off from him....i dnt message as i did before, i never call him and after 9 months i realised i had to do this...bahut ho gaya begging and pleading..and u know in 1 month he changed..he calls, he messaghes..
u shudnt give him a feeling ki i can come and do anything whenever i want....have some self respect then he will respect u...ur not a mat that he can rub his feet whenever he wants....again i am not juging him...just telling u how guys think...atleast the few i know..lol...

So dont worry...trust baba and do something for urself....be happy and show ur guy..and see jaldi me woh bhaagtha wapis ayega,,,:)

Om sai ram

[vani2727]

Dear Aakanksha

As aquafish said, just give him once a big ignore,,,he will definitely come back to you
and till the time you just make urself chill and divert your mind more towards baba and just stop thinking about him (ur beloved)

[aakanksha]

thanxxxxx anushka,vani,sonali and aquafish....after readin your posts i cnt stop crying...N I am exactly doin the same thing these days...i have stopped running after him...i havnt evn cld him since 3 weeks now..even he din call but its very tough fr meee....i dun evn have much friends cz i lost ol f them because i vz very involved with this guy...i never thought he would do this with me...n YA HE REALLY LOVED ME ALOT ,CARED FOR ME ALOT....BUT dont noe wat has happened to him now...
n SONALI I dun noe ki is he doin ds cz f lisnin to his frnds or nt...cz jitne main usse jaanti hun woh apne doston ki sun leta hai but krta apne mann ki hi hai...but 4 sure i nva like his guy frndz..they are al spoiled brats..fr sure hes in bad COMpaNY....
AQUAFISH u said ki if il ignore him and show him that i am busy in my life..woh bhagta aayega..but kaise aayega jab 6 months se nai aaya...?
SAMIRDAVE JI i am waitin fr ur long msg n i dont hv a account on gmail...how should i come on chat...i dun noe how to do it olso....?
n all of u agn anushka,samirdave,aquafish,sonali,vani.....THANXXXXXXX 4 BEIN DRE AAP SAB AUR BABA HI TOH MERI STRENGHT HO....PLZ DUN LEAVE ME ALONE EVERRR...I NEED UUU GUYZZ....

[aakanksha]

DO I NEED TO CREATE AN ACCOUNT ON GMAIL 4 CHAT...??@ SAMIRDAVE JI

[aquafish]

aakanksha

past 6months he didnt come...because ur crying, begging...he was being mean to u but u celebrated his bday and he didnt for urs...kya hua..u called and created scene ki tum kyon nahi aaye..

abhi se..aaj se....badlo..forget the old friends..make new friends..read books...talk to new people...trust me when a guy majkes a decision he doesnt listen to his friends..u will be just fine...please dont think ki nahi aaya so nahi ayega ,,.whats the point if i change...

prob is...we forget ourselves in this mess and when he comes back in the future, u dnt want to hate urself for becoming like that for him..trust me...if u change urself , its good for urself...be good to urself...spend time reading good books, watching tv....praying to baba....keep urself  occupied...and dont discuss ur boyfriend with ur friends offline...

akanksha...trust me only u can help urself yaar....dont panic..i know its scary to realise ki woh waapis nahi asaktha or something..but leave tat to baba and do ur duty..baba gave u a wonderful life...be happy on ur own..show him u dnt need him to be happy....

ek baar dikha do use and forget abt the end result..it will come on its own....take care

[aakanksha]

yeahhh AQUAFISH..dts what m trying to do...i keep on reading sai charitaaaa...vneva i cn....n m trying to make myslf betta.....n stay ol by myself.....lets c kya hota hai....but i noe baba iz dre wd me.......vneva i hv asked him 4 a sign dat will he gve him back to me or not....baba hz gvn me a positive sign...so m tryin to jus stay in my own life....now..but its vry tough...hpe baba gves me strenght n makes me strong...n gives me the fruit of shraddha and sabhuri..by gvn my luv back to someday....OM SAI RAM...
n SAMIRDDAVE JI i hv created my gmail acnt...i hv snd u a request....hpe u gt it...?
n ANUSHKA,SONALI,AQUAFISH,VANI r u ppl dre on gmail or ny odr facebook...or yahoo..

[aquafish]

well u can msg me here aakanksha...dotn worry..baba always helps people with shraddha and saburi..do what is due of u and baba will bless u

[vidushi mittal]

om sai ram aakansha ji..........

baba sb sahi kr denge........hve faith in him.......
i am also in d same situation...........maine sb baba pe chod dya hai........
i dont knw ladke aise kyu hote hai...?? ye sawal mai sbse punchti rehti hu......kyu nahi samahj pate ye log ke hw much we dem.......kyu badal jate hai ladke??? n kya humara unpe depend hona galat hai...

[son$ai]

om sai ram akkansha ji how r u?
dear dnt worry have faith on baba he'l take care of u n ur love as well
take care dear!
om sai ram

[aakanksha]

OM SAI RAM SONALI ji....i am fine.....bas abhi sai prerna padh rai thi.....Hpe u guyz noe abt it...?its amazn...n mere examz shuru ho rai hain nxt week se kuch nai padh paa rahi MAIN.....bas prayin to baba ki mere saath rahe n mujhe ache se padhai karain...

VIDUSHI i am readn ur forum since few weeks now n i noe u r goin through the same problem as mine...but kabhi comment nai kar pai on ur forum kyunki mujhe kuch pata hi nai tha ki kya likhun...as me olso goin thrgh d sme...n hd no clue wat to do....n i noe vidushi baba is with us...hel help us n mke us gt united wd our luvsss....u 2 dun wry gurl....

n AQUAFISH JI....ya ya v ol wil talk here.....only...

SAMIRDDAVE JI i hv send u a request agn.....

[aquafish]

aakanksha and vidushi..dont think guys are like that..there a lot of guys in this forum who r suffering too..never discriminate ki ladke aise ya ladkiyan aise hai..sometimes its ourkarma, or situation that makes people like that....

jst take care na dkeep praying..

om sai ram

[vinnupalam]

yes..sai baba is still living and still helps...he proved to me dat wen his devotees cry fr ter loved ones he weeps along wit thm n sets things right...pri and myself were committed fr 2 years..we used to have small fights and misundrsndings but thn time it went overboard..she had lotsa family issues and problems and she took her frustration out on me by behavin very rudely and acting indifferent,,ths really pissed me off n i thot i wont text her a month oly then she wil realize ma worth bt i strtd missing her a lot n wen i texted her afta that she said she doesnt love n she feels sick of being with me n askd me never to trouble her again...this broke my heart...it was like thousand knives were peicing my heart...depression is a suttle word..i was living dead then....i din contact her afta that...and i never used my facebook accounts thinking dat if i see her profile it would upset me thinkin that my absence doesn upset her...
once wen my bro was online i saw her profile update in his profile n came to kno she doesnt evn miss nor think abt me...i became very restless so i logged in thru my account n to da shock of my life,,came to kno dat she deletd me...ths may seem to b a very small thng bt i was crying fr days..i cudn believe dat she deleted was dying every minute..s i texted her and reasons fr ths behaviour of hers...but she neva replied..il call million times n send thousand text messgs...but she wil jus send one harsg gut wrenching and breaking reply..her friend adviced me to leave her alone fr a month,,,and that is wen our dear sai entered my life theu a pendant...my friend saw my condition and askd me to pray to sai maharaj and gave me his pendant...
from then i daily used to go to his temple and cry to hi..afta a point of time weneva i askd him to b wit me n console me..he gave me answers thru sum form or the oter and assured me that he wil give her back to me...ths went on fr two months...weneva im upset ill feel lik he tells me to wait till ma b'day...n i prayed to him dat she shud wish me...but to da surprise of my life she strtd texting me very normally afta dat...tho i was upset i cudn meet her on my b'day..sai baba gave da best b'day gift by giving my love back into my arms...evn if i take a thousand births afta ths i wil indebted to our sai maharaj...he is da best and he always listens to our prayers..he wil gv bk yur love..keep telling him hw much yu love dat persn..he himself wil drag her/him to yu...
om jai sairam