Eve, my friend... who says you cannot love again?
Pardon me if this sounds rude or disturbing but what I fail to understand is...
When you say" I have faith and am hoping and you're not around Baba..." what is it that you are looking for with complete faith?
Is it love? Is it happiness? Is it companionship? Is it the need for emotional security?
Don't be upset my friend. We are all here to be there with you and stand by you thru this pitch dark phase of life which is soon, very soon going to end.
Many a times Eve, we keep getting upset, killing ourself deep withing agonizing over what has happened... not even knowing what is it that we seek now. We keep saying God, I have faith in You but you're not doing anything for me. You're not there for me. You're not holding me. Why am I sulking? Why am I punished? Why only me? Why so long? Why not this? Why not that?
Have you ever thought... with a clear mind... out of all the things in life that make you feel miserable... how much is under the frame of your control and how much not under your control? The past is not under your control right? Its gone, its happened. Lets stop asking for WHYs... trust me even if you get an answer to all the whys on earth... all those tons of answers also put together ARE NOT GOING TO CHANGE YOUR SITUATION.
So, step one... lets flush all the whys out of our lives. Most of them have no answers. If we knew answers to everything, we'd be God Himself. That way we can keep asking an unlimited no of questions. "Why so many ppl poor God, why did you mix good and bad in the same world, why so many ppl with disease, why some ppl get such circumstances in life that they cant even know the right path, cant even get out of the sinning cycle, why so many born to bear pain, why so many innocent ppl suffer or die... etc etc etc." And trust me our questions will never end.
THERE IS NO ANSWER TO MOST WHYS. WE CAN WASTE OUR ENTIRE LIFE GETTING ANSWERS FOR THESE & STILL THESE WHYS WILL NEVER GET OVER!
Now its our choice whether we choose to sulk and go round and round trying to find answers to these whys... answers you may never get!
Choose...
If you choose to find answers, trust me... no one can help you my friend.
If you choose to move ahead and make something beautiful out of your life... GOD will be the first one to come to your rescue. And be assured, we are all there to back you up.
Its just two simple things (which only sound simple I agree) you need to do.
Step 1: Accept he's never coming back... for whatever reason it happened... IT HAPPENED. Now theres not much you can do to change the past. It happened. You need to accept it and move onto the next step.
Step two: Now that its final that its happened... WHAT NEXT??? What is it that you seek now from life. Think hard and decide what it is that you seek.
Prioritise first things first. Eg. First I need to get rid of the bitterness, the baggage and negative emotions that hurt, then I need to start finding and doing things that get me peace... make me neutral for sometime... so that I may find peace... then maybe look at what would bring back some amount of positivity in life...like what is it that would make me smile today? What is it that I can do to better myself or build positive karma? What is it that I can happily and willingly give the universe? (No matter how miserable we are, we always have a lot more than at least one person on earth. That means we have the power and capacity to give to the universe. And when we give, we naturally feel much better... our spirit feels better)
Step 3: Now that you know what you need first (top priority) half the battle is won. Work towards it and find ways to reach there. God helps us thru ppl a lot of times. Be open to recieving love, guidance and wisdom. Maybe He's trying really hard to tell you something or teach you something without which you're not able to move forward in life. Be open to His signals. Stop expecting Him to work for you...and for sometime just talk to Him and wait attentively for His clues, His signals... that He already must be giving you through events that happen in your life or people.
God is not a gennie my friend. We cant ask Him to do this or that. Despite that, He always does. Always... But not as per our desires. As per His desires and His plan. The plan He has made for you. And trust me... that plan would be the best plan for you, your soul.
Whatever it is... whether its going thru tests like these and emerging much stronger... and trust me you will! Or something as good as finding the most loving, caring and compassionate partner...who maybe is himself learning life lessons and getting ready for the beautiful relationship he would be sharing with you.
Maybe your future partner is away from you cause somewhere he's learning more about relationships - like being more loyal, considerate, understanding, careing and loving towards his future partner (you). Maybe he's going thru his own lessons that teach him how to treat a woman better. Maybe Gods keeping you away from the perfect match coz he cares for you and doesnt want to expose you to someone who is still not mature enough not to hurt you? So that you only meet the new, more loving, more considerate him and that saves you a lot of further pain and negative experiences....
Possible right??? Think...