Forget about the sins committed in the past and learn to live Virtuously in the present. Keep faith in 'Guru' so that he can take care of your present for a better future.
When you fail to win the love of your dear ones, never aspire for sympathies from others. Pray God to fill the void with his divine grace.
Charities given in the form of free education and food may not be to the liking of your family members. On the day of your demise family members may not shed a tear, but those benefited will certainly feel the vacuum and perhaps may even cry.
Om Sri Sairam