Mother, youth, bonds of love (wife and children), Social status and position in office- are all passing phases during one's life. 'Ram' the (Master) and his devotee Hanuman (servant) are the only permanent entities in the universe. Therefore try your best to emulate the ideal example to be liberated from all the bonds.
Extra marital affairs should be totally avoided, for it is like travelling in a car without brakes and is disastrous to the self and society at large.
Retirement from service is usually marked with all pomp and show including photo sessions to make those memories last for the rest of your life. Do good in personal life too, so that your near and dear really miss you when you say goodbye to all at the end of your journey through life.
The only tools with which couples can solve their marital disputes are self-introspection and prayer. Any external interference will only lead to inviting further problems. Seeking divorce and legal separation multiplies the miseries of the begotten children amounts to doing grave injustice to them.
Om Sri Sairam